Luscious Limmy's GUIDE TO LIFE

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

Luscious Limmy's Guide to Life

 

 

In order to put in some context to this article, I thought it useful to include the backstory … why it was written in the first place. It comes from my Clan Forum page and discussions: http://prntscr.com/f6bkcg

 

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MY RESPONSE:

Oh man, TTK. Between that message, and BD30's story (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1SeF3bEDB04BqoFpc5U9baKJ1Gkg5LdocF7AY9qoReAQ/edit), I'm getting juicy eyes just thinking about what I want to write. Having my mom pass away 7 months ago was really damn tough.

I've never had a friend talk to me about suicide. Closest thing was my dad's friend doing it a couple of years back. I know how it impacted my dad, and via stories, this guy's wife and kids (and it was on Fathers Day - WTF?!?)...  Wasn't last week dedicated to mental awareness, or something? I forget what it was called ... anyone?   http://www.cmha.ca/news-and-events/events/mental-health-week/

TTK, did u know her before? If yes, did you know her well?

 

Here's my thoughts guys. You can do with this what you like.

 

Teenage years can be messed up. Physiological changes can mess with your head. You move from being close to your parents, to relying on your set of friends for direction. Some people go for it more alone, some with a couple of close friends, some with many friends in a group, some with a lot of people but not really any close friendships. Nothing is wrong with any path. But know this: EVERY YEAR GETS BETTER. I can truly say that. There are new experiences, both good and bad, that will help define who you are, who you "choose" to become. Some will be hard, and you will wonder "WHY? WHY ME??" But fighting through diversity and challenges can also be rewarding. Sometimes, we may not understand how in the moment.

"The world shall pass as it was meant to be" I had a friend say before.

 

There are going to be "good" influences and "bad" influences. The way you were raised will impact your decisions on whether to stick around for what you know is bad, or avoid getting sucked into it. Be confident with your values and morals. Do what you think is right and proper. In the longer run, that will be what keeps you grounded, confident, successful. Don't lose yourself just to be "included". You may end up not liking the result. You could hurt someone, hurt yourself, or find that those "friends" really didn't give a crap about you in the first place, and they end up hurting you.

 

The world can be a messed up place too. Terrorism, war, swarm beatings. Why? I have no clue. Some people make different choices. Sometimes they are religiously told that this is what God needs from them for redemption and salvation and forever happiness. I like to hope for the good in everyone, that they are trying to do what they believe is best. But there are troubles in the world, and that gets into some people, and "best" may not be our regular sense of reality..

 

I'm not overly religious (being a Baptist Christian married to a Hindu, and now trying to learn something about the Jewish faith and Hebrew language because of a really good Tanki friend halfway around the world, that I may have mentioned to friends here), but I do believe all the religions have a common thread, read in the right way - be a good person, so that we can all live together happily. It comes down to you, to your beliefs, to what you consider right or wrong. Will my actions benefit the world, or cause harm somewhere. Sometimes we don't realize what our actions do. But they have impacts. You may never know what or how or when, but I believe in creating good karma. Why not, if it is possible..?

 

RE Impacts: A good friend of mine from first year University, we'd hang out often. Saw him recently after like 5 years.  I'm like "Dale, I really gotta say, something you said one night really hit me, and I use this story often."  It goes like this:

 

He came from out of town to stay at my place in Ottawa one weekend. We had two girls over Saturday night, cooked an awesome dinner, and enjoyed some wine. For whatever reason, one of the girls tries to wrestle me to the ground in the living room. Of course, I'm a little competitive, so I don't let her win (Hindsight = Stupid!!). But on the good side, then her friend decides to try and help her. So now it is me versus two girls, wrestling in the living room, getting rug burns. Dale, lying on the couch, looks all ticked off and angry. BOTH girls are like "Dale, come on". They get up, and try to drag him into the wrestling match. He denies them, sitting there still angry. Later, somehow, we get Dale off his butt and out to this awesome dance club. One girl primarily is trying to dance with me. The other girl is trying to get Dale to dance. He keeps saying no. Just standing there, arms crossed, looking ticked off. Some other guy asks her to dance, so she says yes. In the middle of me making out with my girl, I look up and see her friend making out with the guy, and Dale still standing on the side of the dance floor, looking stupid and angry.

Skipping the rest of the night, to get the point, we wake up the next morning. As we are making an omelette for breakfast, Dale looks at me and says "Sorry Luscious Limmy. I wasn't in a good mood last night, and I realize that IT WAS MY DECISION TO NOT HAVE FUN. Every opportunity was presented to me, BUT I CHOSE NOT TO take them. I'm sorry if I ruined your night..." Of course I laughed at him, and say I had an AWESOME night. "You lose, sucker!" was the rest of it. He snaps out of his negative mood, and we enjoy the next day...

 

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Moral of the story - when I told him about this life changing realization that he taught me - that we CONTROL how we INTERPRET what is HAPPENING AROUND US ... he didn't remember it at all!! OMG - seriously?! But, then he told me a story of what I had done and said one time, that is now built into his DNA and how he uses it to make himself better. And I did NOT remember that event either!!!

 

WE CAN IMPACT PEOPLE, UNKNOWINGLY...

 

Lives are intertwined. Things happen for a reason. Embrace every opportunity to hear someone's story. Learn from them, Embrace what impacts you, discard what you don't find relevant (for now). Everyone in this world has a story to tell, and it will impact someone. How the bum on the street got there. How the professional athlete or actor/actress got there. There are chances to ensure you run yourself towards success, or things to avoid...

 

My wife's uncle moved to Canada from India. He was a doctor, and needed re-schooling to be allowed to practice medicine here. He is the eldest of his brothers. Out of respect, we all call him Mota Dadi. Sadly, (for my Indian brothers here) my Gujarati was not always good, and I once called him Mota Dutti. After everyone laughed, I found out that meant "the big sh!t" in Gujarati. Anyway, he always talks about a local doctor who helped him - found him and his wife a place to stay, helped with the studies and pointing out differences to medical practices, helped with getting him into a family medicine job. He is very emotional in his appreciation for this elderly Canadian doctor. I want to be able to impact someone's life like that. I try to live that way. My decision.

 

RE school, or just around. You will see people by themselves. Most times (I believe), people want to be around other people. They want to smile and be happy and have fun. Go over and say hello. Be silly, make them laugh. Bring your friends into the conversation. Ask the lonely person to come play with you all.

 

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You may have just saved someone's life. And hopefully they live a good life and help others. They will remember you forever. That is a power inside of all of us, to be the superhero.

Edited May 12, 2017 by LIMITFULL

[Blackdrakon30 2,943]

- Very very minor word choice edits (You probably know which.  :P )

- Small formatting edits

- Removed many many many double spaces

- Spelling was already good and all.

 

Approved.

 

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:)

 

Just as a heads up to readers, remember that all of these words are Limitfull's. I did not add any footnote or do anything besides the listed edits except write the piece that he linked near the start. Only reason I mention this is that someone once thought something I wrote was a moderator footnote lol, and I think it's better that you appreciate the author's wisdom as their own.

Edited May 10, 2017 by Blackdrakon30

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

Thank you @Blackdrakon30!!  Hopefully it is OK for me to follow along with this recent thought also..

 

Luscious Limmy’s GUIDE TO LIFE – PART DEUX.

 

In order to put in some context to this article, I thought it useful to include the backstory … why it was written in the first place.  It comes from a personal Skype discussion, so names have been modified to protect the innocent.  One of my favorite Tanki friends seemed to be in a rough patch last month…

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> 

 

Hey [xxxGEORGExxx].  I just wanted to write you a note.

 

Please, know that I think you are awesome.  You have many amazing qualities for this game that I have admired over the time I've been here - funny, artistic, chatty, awesome picture drawer, awesome photo-taker, your investigative journalism and knowledge of Tanki Forums, cool parkour skills, and a great player also.  I even have some of your drawings and pictures saved on my Desktop at work, so I can look at them once in a while, when I need a smile.

I've been honored to call you a friend, and stick up for you when needed.

 

I don't understand what has been happening recently?  Maybe I just didn't know you before, but something seems off from the regular guy I've known for months...  What's up bro, is there anything I can help with?  Do you need to talk about some bad stuff to get it out of your system?

 

Look, I've been a teenager already.  It can be really messed up.  I wasn't cool in school, I wasn't athletic, I didn't have a bunch of friends.  But I was smart.  And my parents (RIP mom) loved me, unconditionally, and I think that was one of the few things that helped me get through it all, and have some confidence today.

Trust me when I say, honestly looking back, every year after high school got better and better for me.  More friends, more girls, more confidence overall.  New activities, new experiences - there are some fantastic days ahead of you.  No, they won't always be easy, nothing worthwhile is easy, but it does get better...

 

To me, the biggest thing that makes the difference in people’s lives – defining that it is all in your head and how you interpret what happens around you.  Realize that our historical experiences influence how we interpret the current day.  Mentally note what made you sad, and how YOU can make a change to that in the future.  My god man, we all have so much potential.  It pains me to see people walking around just doing what was done the day before, not striving to be better, not pushing their limits to learn more.  EVERYONE can do it - just takes some effort.

 

Oh, to make matters worse growing up, I was always pudgy (mentioned not athletic already).  I've gone from like 30+% body fat to 17%.  I can do 17 pullups and am aiming for 20.  I strap 45lbs around my waist while I do some strength building pullup reps.  I never ran 1km except for Grade 6 when I had to for gym class.  Now, I can zip through 6km in half an hour.  This morning, there was an elite athlete at my gym who is in absolutely awesome shape.  When I saw him 3 weeks ago - his #1 time on the indoor cycle-spin class was like 20% better than me.  I've been pushing to improve the last few weeks, this is my 3rd week pushing over 300 average watts (OK that means nothing unless you spin).  But when his total energy for the hour today was 950, I was 930 ... SO CLOSE!  Take nothing for granted.  Be kind to your body, be kind to those around you.  It is NEVER too late to start putting effort into things.  And you can change the reality around you!!!

 

I have seen you do so much good.  Please brother, don't screw it up and piss it all away.  You mean something to many people - even if you don't really know it.  You bring happiness to people - even if you don't believe it.

I want to see you succeed.  Go out and be that man I know you can be!  Not for me, but for yourself.

 

And if you need me to be the answering diary, I am here for you.  But the message is repeated above.  Take control - interpret things in your head in a positive light.  There is always light in the world.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> 

 

Special honorary thanks shouted out to @KillerGnat and (and RIP our founder @DragonOfStorms)….

The Happy Dragons clan has been good for my life, for almost a year.  I love all the guys and gals that have called it home. 

The game got me interested.  The people made me want to stay.

[Quarks 2,255]

I really enjoyed it and the wisdom. As for the formatting: Bright green isn't the easiest to read on a dark forum, just a heads up for the future.

[Blackdrakon30 2,943]

I really enjoyed it and the wisdom. As for the formatting: Bright green isn't the easiest to read on a dark forum, just a heads up for the future.

It's a personal choice of his aesthetics-wise, hence me not changing the color like I usually would.  :ph34r:

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

I really enjoyed it and the wisdom. As for the formatting: Bright green isn't the easiest to read on a dark forum, just a heads up for the future.

I've been a Happy Dragon for over 11 months.  I moved to bright green about 10mths ago, but after similar complaints changed to the dark green dragon scales, for hundreds of posts since.

It's almost automatic ... even in personal PMs.  Try to use the bright green sparingly, for something of importance ... like my nickname (lol).

Sorry for the harshness, will use "bright green" less going forward.

[KillerGnat 3,135]

YAS #BestArticleOfAWC2017

 

thanks for finally posting your thoughts here. Gives a new, wiser perspective on a lot of things.  ^_^

[TTK_229 1,080]

Sorry for not clarifying enough in my post. She goes to my school, but we're not really friends. I had thought it was just a Discord rumor, but it was later confirmed by her friends that she did. She's still in the hospital, from what I hear.

Great article flimsy :))
how is the making out stuff allowed lol
Also, keep the green.

Edited May 11, 2017 by Blackdrakon30
It's allowed cuz I say it is hhh

[arnav0506 2,777]

Well done Limit! You took my advice pretty seriously :O GGWP!

[Truthteller 4,204]

Enjoyed reading this story and part duex too. :)

p.s at the first story you used the word morale but I think its moral

[HAPPSHOT 2,029]

Eh next time make it a bit brief xDD

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

Thank u brothers for reading and the feedback.

Only hoping that I can help others... Spend some time to build a bridge that I have already crossed, so u don't have to start from scratch.

TTK - lol - ya, somehow that passed.  Author creativity allowed apparently!  (thx BD for the lattitude)

Arnav, u weren't the first.  MasterMult and Zen have suggested in the past, just avoided the time it would take...

Truth - I'll call that Canadian vs American english - I'm bilingual and may mix it up sometimes by accident..?

Happ .. u'll need to learn, I am not brief.  U need to have some staying power to keep up with me!  LOL  -> comes with age bro ... u'll get there.

[Truthteller 4,204]

When I think of morale I think of soldiers in a war

When I think of moral I thought of a fairy tale story xD

#justputtingitoutthereyaknownokillplsthankyouhaveafreshcookiewithoutgluten

Edited May 11, 2017 by Truthteller

[HAPPSHOT 2,029]

Add this to your guide plx http://en.tankiforum.com/index.php?showtopic=355973

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

Add this to your guide plx http://en.tankiforum.com/index.php?showtopic=355973

I think U just did!!!

 

People are equal - no doubt there.  Doesn't matter about race, sex, orientation, color, religion or anything.  Everyone deserves respect to them and their possessions.  They can love and be loved.  They can learn and they can teach.  This is my default starting point in life.

As you move out of the teens, Uni and then working for a couple of years, it is possible to reflect and notice differences.  Loving math and statistics (until it got hard in university), I call it The Bell Curve - or Normal Distribution (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Normal_distribution).  There are a lot of people in the middle, then some on the lower quartile, and some on the higher quartile.  This can go across soooo many facets of life: intelligence, athletic ability, musicality, street smarts, hand-eye coordination, etc.

Everyone will have their natural state in the bell curve, where they default.  But ANYONE and EVERYONE can move rankings.  Hard work, effort, knowledge of what it takes from people who have excelled before, great trainers or mentors.  It may not be an easy change - but we can all be better.  It may need money, which you don't have at the moment.  You may need to find a way to change countries.  Or you may just need to reach a certain level of ability, before the next secrets unlock right in front of you.

But it can be done.  It will be worth the effort.  You can make a better you.  Don't let anyone hold you down.  Push hard and go for it...

#Relentless       #UndoOrdinaryBeExtraordinary

[M-axis 589]

Umm...how old are you??? I though you were 15 ir something :o

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

Umm...how old are you??? I though you were 15 ir something :o

LOL M.  funny u write that.  See what comes next..!

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

LIES, LIES, and MORE LIES… WHY?

 

Why do people lie?  I googled this exact question, and then read the first 2 articles that popped up…

Oh, there were more FOR SURE.  But I don’t have all freakin’ day here folks!!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-i-m-approach/201702/why-do-people-lie

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201701/6-reasons-people-lie-when-they-don-t-need

 

I’m not going to go into a lot of details, but to just summarize my situation.  What did I lie about and why… 

Also importantly, why am I saying all this.  Yes, there is someone this is directed to… I really hope she takes the time to read below.

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-i-m-approach/201702/why-do-people-lie

From the first article, I most closely relate to “maintaining a social status”.  When I first got into Tanki, I felt like there were a lot of older people chatting with me, who directed me to Clans, suggesting there were ‘mature’ folks there.  I was a noob, I didn’t realize it was full of teens…  But when I got into a Clan, it seemed 12-18 was the normal range.  OK I thought … let me drop my age to a bit closer.  I’m still young enough to remember the teens and some of the problems I had … maybe I can help a few people…

Looking back to some of the original people I had chatted with the first month, they seemed to be like 30-60.  Maybe there are people that troll the low ranks, looking for noob recruits for bad purposes. 

Watch out, don’t provide personal details.  Your parents have said it before.  I worry about everyone that could be impressionable.  1 or 2 years ago I saw a scary video.  Just found it again now.  Watch this.  And watch out…  God, it is making me want to cry, or scream, to keep my little girl safe…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jMhMVEjEQg

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201701/6-reasons-people-lie-when-they-don-t-need

From the second article, this comes similarly in point #3 – I didn’t want to lose the respect of people around me.  I thought if my clanmates knew I was older, they would think I couldn’t relate to them.  I liked being part of the group as I got into it, and thought I had something to give back.  To build a bridge for the next generation coming through.  To share some of my experiences and how I got through them…

 

So, the back story….

I started playing agar.io because my son was playing it a lot at home, and I wanted to find a connection with him, so we could have fun in stuff that he liked.  I played most days at lunch, until I was able to reach first place pretty much every day (The Biggest Blob!).  But then my office turned off that website.  Moving to miniclip.com, where I knew he also searched games, I found Tanki.  The first month, I would always link in through miniclip, until I realized Tanki had their own website.  Then I found the Forum, and Clans…

 

Realistically, I also wanted to have some fun in the middle of the work day.  To try and understand what my kids may start to come across as they get closer to teenage years became a side benefit.  As the days turned to weeks turned to a couple of months, I found the Happy Dragons Clan.  And then I stayed with Tanki, because of them.  The Clan.  The people that helped me through my mom getting ill last year, and ultimately dying last Fall.  #CancerSucks!

The team of people that helped me try to forget the crappy parts of life, a return to the days of freedom and without care.  Just pure unbridled fun.  That's what gaming provides.  Or is supposed to.  Until you actually start to find a real friend.  Someone that is ready to share more than you are, someone who you enjoy talking with and sharing stories with…

 

I'm done of hiding behind something unreal.  No, I'm not going to give you my name, SIN, birthdate, phone number and home address and any other personally confidential information. 

 

TRUTH:  Friends, I'm older than your big brother.  I am not 25, but I am 45.  I've not been here in any bad way -> just to have fun playing a game, and help where I could.  Everything that I've said is true, just adjusted by 20 years...  To start it off, my Guju Princess (that I have always written to my online friends about) and I have been together just over 20 years, not just married last summer while my mom was sick.  I have a 14 year old son, and a daughter turning 11 in a couple of weeks.

I have always felt more of a fatherly role in keeping my Tanki friends safe.  But at the same time, wanting to be a supportive friend too, where I could be.  I had grown up wanting to help the world.  Trying to figure out where.  Tanki started to become such a vehicle for a message.  Sort of like a Dear Abby penname.  I had hoped to informally reach at least 1 person and make their life better.  @DragonOfStorms knew that I was older when he invited me to the Clan, I think I told him 35 first, but then when everyone started becoming teens, I moved to 25 just for a more 'relatable' feel, as people asked later on.  Then it became the auto-answer.  Sorry.

 

I hope that I have cleared the air, and that it isn't totally freaky.  Tanki friends keep telling me there is no reason to give personal info if it can be avoided.  We are here to play a game...  Personally, it doesn't change how “I” think about Tanki, and it doesn't change how much I care about all the wonderful people that I have met here, and that have helped give me some advice during the past 2 days, as I struggled through some true pain..

As a wise teen once said to me (this morning) “Age is an illusion and doesn't change how I see anyone”.  Thanks bro.

 

So WHY AM I WRITING ALL THIS…

 

I really hope she reads this, and that it will help her move on, to achieve all the great things that I know she can.
To protect the innocent, I will only call her Jane here.  Jane Doe.  I care for her as my little sister.

So I'm doing this for my lost Tanki friend, Jane. Someone that I never expected to even begin talking with (except for clan recruiting), to get so close to, to enjoy exchanging messages with.

 

Jane helped me realize my mom’s everyday message – to stop and smell the roses.  To always bring joy, youth, passion, energy and enthusiasm to what we have around us.  To enjoy music again (my mom was VERY musical).  To appreciate life.  Always and forever.  Age is just a number.  We don’t have to stop feeling all of the great things that youth allows us to … without the baggage that continues to grow as you get older …

 

Through the eyes of youth, Jane also helped me renew my relationship with my wife, with my kids, and has made me commit to being a better person – both inside and out.

 

When Jane had personal concerns, I tried to be there for help, to boost her up, to give her some tools to overcome issues.  In trying to decide what to do next in life, I tried offering ways to help look at it.  If she wanted to travel the world with her friend, I wanted to give her a free place to stay for a week or two in Toronto, to show her around the things we shared.

 

Jane made me cry last night, it was such a hard thing to get out of bed this morning for my favorite spin cycle class.

Sadly, I think I probably made Jane cry last night also.  That is probably what has hurt me the most.

 

I know I lied about my age.  And that was wrong.  But this was just supposed to be a game.  How did I let the game turn into Real Life…?!?  Games are supposed to be fun.  The past week has been hard, my friends....

Thankfully most of my Tanki peeps the past day have been supportive, and just asking lots of questions – how often do you find out that you can approach someone that is roughly the age of your parent, plays the same game and be youthful, yet have some extra years of wisdom…  I only want to help…

 

Jane, if you are reading this … I was sooo close to giving my personal information last month, until you sent me your Facebook page that almost looked fake – barely anything there but a few gorgeous pictures.  Immediately I withdrew, thinking there was no way this could be real…  Must be an old guy trolling for confidential information and fake identities…

All the time we spent learning about each other, as new friends would.  I will never be able to do that again online.

I am so so sorry.  For ever doubting you.  For hurting you.

 

But folks, as much as Jane may have hated feeling duped and having her trust broken, I am also upset about her reactions.  I shared a lot of personal details of my life that some of my good Real Life friends don't know.  Jane kept saying it wouldn't matter about who I was and what I looked like, but that I was there for her support..

All I ever wanted to do was help...  [swearing inside my head] ---->>>>  that didn't seem to work out so well...

Seems maybe we both lied…?

 

From the moment I thought Jane became a friend, I was looking for an opportunity to tell her the truth from that moment on, rather than just stopping completely and disappearing.  I don't like to take the easy road - the high road is sometimes hard.

I have always believed in fate.  The world had somehow pushed us in front of each other, now I’m so unsure why…

 

I just don't ever want to again be told that I hurt someone and betrayed their trust.  Jane asked me to never do that again, and so I'm opening myself up.  For better, or for worse.

 

I’m sure everyone is going through the problems I remember having – trying to find my identity, and growing up in general.  Trying to decide how to move into adulthood, university, jobs, and the stuff that comes next as we all venture out of the parental nest…

 

Just be careful.  Games are games.  Friends are friends.  Online can be hard to turn into Real Life.

I still believe in the good of all people, but also everyone needs to know that you could be hurt.  In various forms.

   xoxo, Limmy.  :wub: :ph34r:

 

PS - please feel free to share your experiences - with lies - or moving online game friends to direct contacts...
It may help me understand the world a bit more.
 

Edited May 18, 2017 by LIMITFULL

[gabriele02 3,813]

First to like xd

Cant believe I actually read all this..

Awesome, limmy!

[Tofu 6,773]

Well its good that you let it all out, holding secrets inside you can make you lonely, very lonely indeed

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

I know u had me made long ago gabs..!

You are awesome bro.

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

Sweet Tofu ... yummy yummy Tofu...  always full of love Tofu ... :wub:

U are a unique individual.  In game, in Skype and everywhere.  Admittedly, I haven't got u figured out yet.  :wacko:   :ph34r: 

Edited May 16, 2017 by Tofu
hehe

[LIMITFULL 1,793]

LOL - cheeky bugger - u can edit anything I say!!!   That's NOT fair...!

[i wrote "not" fair]

PS - not lonely.  I have a great family.  I'm going to spend extra time with them for a bit more now.  I need it, and am so lucky to have them around.

[Tofu 6,773]

One can never be lonely with family  :3

[Mr.Optimistic 440]

Omg Limi, awesome work. GGWP