How do you make friends

[Piety 70]

How do you make friends in real life and what can I do as a selfless person to try to achieve good or any friends.

 

By the way I'm fat and very ugly so I need advise while I burst in to tears

 

Mods don't lock this it's a new topic and one everyone including me can take advise from

[GoldRock 6,165]

Can I be your friend pls.

 

Works every time ^_^

 

OK, on a serious note, just be yourself. Avoid being self-piteous, avoid being arrogant, try not to be self-centred. If you look beyond yourself and your own worries, which might seem significant now but most of the time will just fade away over time, there's bound to be people out there who'd get along with you well. The beauty of the human race is its diversity - we're all human, and we all fit into society one way or another. Just try to be more selfless than selfish (though we all are naturally selfish to an extent), and soon people'll start to get to know you as a reliable friend ;)

 

I for one don't care how fat or very ugly you may be - it's personality and character that counts. Also, try not to put yourself down; people generally tend to walk all over those who show signs of weakness and use them to their advantage, so don't lie down and let them do so. If you can't compliment yourself, then who will?

Edited October 31, 2013 by GoldRock

[Piety 70]

Can I be your friend pls.

 

Works every time ^_^

 

OK, on a serious note, just be yourself. Avoid being self-piteous, avoid being arrogant, try not to be self-centred. If you look beyond yourself and your own worries, which might seem significant now but most of the time will just fade away over time, there's bound to be people out there who'd get along with you well. The beauty of the human race is its diversity - we're all human, and we all fit into society one way or another. Just try to be more selfless than selfish (though we all are naturally selfish to an extent), and soon people'll start to get to know you as a reliable friend ;)

 

I for one don't care how fat or very ugly you may be - it's personality and character that counts. Also, try not to put yourself down; people generally tend to walk all over those who show signs of weakness and use them to their advantage, so don't lie down and let them do so. If you can't compliment yourself, then who will?

Thanks for your advise but it doesn't stop there unfortunately

 

Basically you can not care about how I look because you know me through the game and people know me through life and people don't want to hang around with me because I'm fat and ugly whereas everyone gets like a haircut after every 2 weeks and All that.

 

Without a lie I won't hear me say this ever again but u only okay tanki coz I got no mates no life nothing to keep myself busy that's why you see me on the tanki forum because so far that's the only true identity I have

 

Think about it if I had friends and stuff wouldn't I be playing and chatting less on here and focus more on chilling and going out

 

I'm not poor or anything either but without friends life is extremely hard man.

 

You wouldn't understand straight away you know. If I even had one friend I would always talk to them and try to go to them asicb as possible

 

I have a friend called GTdone in tanki online I don't know him in real life but I talk to him and wait over 25 minutes to join his matches because he's only friend who I think I can get close to

 

But even then that's not real life

 

I'm not making this topic so tears come from everyone's eyes but I need advise and help and assistance

[r_DarknessRising0 59]

How do you make friends in real life and what can I do as a selfless person to try to achieve good or any friends.

 

By the way I'm fat and very ugly so I need advise while I burst in to tears

 

Mods don't lock this it's a new topic and one everyone including me can take advise from

Stop going around and insulting teams

[Remaine 4,687]

Stop going around and insulting teams

That's what I told him and then he brings up my garage and rank, which was totally irrelevant. It's on the "If you could hear what people [honestly] thought of you" thread. Guess who won that debate? Every time some helps out ZiAa, you see him saying "add me on tanki" or "add me friend on tanki" that would imply that he doesn't have many friends and tbh, I can see why. The most annoying thing is that he doesn't even know he's arrogant. I mean, we all brag and show off at times but it never lasts as long nor is it as bad. He's the opposite of selfless in my eyes.

 

/rant

[r_DarknessRising0 59]

That's what I told him and then he brings up my garage and rank, which was totally irrelevant. It's on the "If you could hear what people [honestly] thought of you" thread. Guess who won that debate? Every time some helps out ZiAa, you see him saying "add me on tanki" or "add me friend on tanki" that would imply that he doesn't have many friends and tbh, I can see why. The most annoying thing is that he doesn't even know he's arrogant. I mean, we all brag and show off at times but it never lasts as long nor is it as bad. He's the opposite of selfless in my eyes.

 

/rant

lol

[Piety 70]

lol

Haters hate.

I've said this more than once

[Raphael2 3,263]

Do you go to school ? It is easy to make a lot of friends here. Just be yourself. Accept yourself as you are, because if you hide yourself thinking that the others won't see that you are 'ugly', you'll just be shyer. If you accept yourself, keep the head high and if you are friendly, you will have a lot of chances to find good friends.

[Piety 70]

Do you go to school ? It is easy to make a lot of friends here. Just be yourself. Accept yourself as you are, because if you hide yourself thinking that the others won't see that you are 'ugly', you'll just be shyer. If you accept yourself, keep the head high and if you are friendly, you will have a lot of chances to find good friends.

Hello Ralph I'm guessing your not ugly right ?

 

I am friendly believe it or not even if anyone was to ask to be my friend I'll be happy to so it u know

 

I don't occasionally hide myself in the toilets once in a while to prevent abuse.

 

Again I will say I'm not expecting a reaction from you guys but rather just need advise

 

Thanks Ralph add me and I'll see u soon in battle?

 

Ralph are u fat? Or skinny?

[Remaine 4,687]

Haters hate.

The way that's not even how it goes.

[Piety 70]

The way that's not even how it goes.

Please may I insist you stop contradicting me

 

Once in a while is okay but all the time to offend me isn't very nice. If I've posed a threat to you in any way then let this be a time of ease

 

In the dearest of respects could you be abit more positive please ;)

[GoldRock 6,165]

Thanks for your advise but it doesn't stop there unfortunately

 

Basically you can not care about how I look because you know me through the game and people know me through life and people don't want to hang around with me because I'm fat and ugly whereas everyone gets like a haircut after every 2 weeks and All that.

 

Without a lie I won't hear me say this ever again but u only okay tanki coz I got no mates no life nothing to keep myself busy that's why you see me on the tanki forum because so far that's the only true identity I have

 

Think about it if I had friends and stuff wouldn't I be playing and chatting less on here and focus more on chilling and going out

 

I'm not poor or anything either but without friends life is extremely hard man.

 

You wouldn't understand straight away you know. If I even had one friend I would always talk to them and try to go to them asicb as possible

 

I have a friend called GTdone in tanki online I don't know him in real life but I talk to him and wait over 25 minutes to join his matches because he's only friend who I think I can get close to

 

But even then that's not real life

 

I'm not making this topic so tears come from everyone's eyes but I need advise and help and assistance

I understand the position you're in, and can relate to it myself...

 

Le dramatic confession:

 

 

I kinda used to be a bit of a loner, too; someone that wasn't 'cool' enough to be with the 'popular' guys, just some 'nerd', because I got good grades (ironically, I revised less than most). I used to try to escape within my thoughts, pretending I didn't care though it really did hurt. When I did come across someone who I thought would actually be friendly towards me, I tried to do the same as you are, to follow him round; in the vain hope that here was someone that I could finally confide in. Well, from experience, it doesn't work - don't do it. You either end up creeping that person out, or that person ends up taking advantage of you - you might help him with something, yet when you ask for help yourself, he won't give a damn about your problems. If you try to be 'cool' just to please others, you just end up being a sheep, following a crowd that will heartlessly cast you out if you ever stray from it, being pressured into things you may not want to do.

 

In the end, all it took was for me to realise who I was. In some ways, I was flawed - I eventually realised I was pretty arrogant and sucked up to teachers a bit at the time, and I resolved to become less so. I stopped trying to fit in, and let myself fall into place. I improved as a person, and in turn, grew out of this phase of my life. People stopped judging me by my grades, and got to know me as a person. It was just the subtlest of changes, but it made all the difference. Since then, I've been elected to a number of student councils, and have loosened up considerably, having had numerous detentions for various misdemeanours :lol: But yeah, I'm happy to say I've earned respect amongst my peers to some degree, and have made many good friends since. As for the 'popular' guys, I get along with 'em, but now as equals. Interestingly, they don't seem so 'cool' anymore - most of my peers have started to see them as shallow, as trying to act tough when they're not.

 

All that happened about 3 or 4 years ago, and I'm a different guy to what I was. I still occasionally get judged by those who don't know me; for example, at the start of this year, we were split into new classes for certain subjects at school, and I was seated next to a group of people I didn't know. They were whispering, obviously about me, and one turned and said, smirking "You're the one who got this particular mark in that particular exam, I read about it in the school magazine. What a cool guy." I explained to him that I didn't really care about that particular issue, and it's not like I wanted that fact to be put in the magazine, but thanks anyway. In our next English lesson, we were peer-assessing each other's writing tasks, and they took great care to tell me how rubbish it was. I thanked them for their feedback; one of my friends told them to stop being jealous. Some lessons later, one of my friends was presenting to the class when he said "my name is x, as many of you may not know" and I just couldn't resist interrupting with a loud, obvious laugh - I mean, that was hilarious(!) Anyway, the teacher told me to shut up and stop interrupting, which got everyone laughing for real - I glanced over at those guys I was seated next to, and it seemed to dawn on their faces that I actually have a personality. A few lessons later, whilst I was chatting with a friend, the one who had told me "what a cool guy" I was when he first met me said, in what seemed to be an almost appraising tone: "You have friends." and then walked away; we now get along quite well.

 

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So dude, I get where you're coming from; just be yourself, realise your strengths and improve on your weaknesses. Only then will people look past what their first impression of you is, look at your personality instead, and get to know you as a friend. I just have a question I'd like to ask now:

 

Can I be your friend pls?

 

 

Don't open the spoiler.

DON'T open it.

Unless you're the OP.

It's kind of embarassing.

Anyway, it's a text wall.

[r_DarknessRising0 59]

Haha loner, imma bully u now :3

[GoldRock 6,165]

Haha loner, imma bully u now :3

*sobs quietly into handkerchief*

 

(EDIT) You opened the spoiler! I said not to! How could you?! :o

Edited November 1, 2013 by GoldRock

[Piety 70]

*sobs quietly into handkerchief*

 

(EDIT) You opened the spoiler! I said not to! How could you?! :o

I added u already gold rock hope we have a good time

 

Forget that other guy please

[GoldRock 6,165]

I added u already gold rock hope we have a good time

 

Forget that other guy please

Sure, it'll be great to get to know you ;)

 

I agree, that other guy is just a useless flea... and I mean that literally, not metaphorically or allegorically.

[r_destroytank0 126]

I honestly don't know o_o 

[Piety 70]

Sure, it'll be great to get to know you ;)

 

I agree, that other guy is just a useless flea... and I mean that literally, not metaphorically or allegorically.

Forget bout him

 

Lol anyway pm me I want this topic to remain I. Topic

 

 

Anyone ever are lentils

[GoldRock 6,165]

Anyone ever are lentils

*ate, and wrong topic :lol:

[xxElyxx 275]

Just be yourself.. whether you yourself don't think others would like you or get you as who you are, and don't be shy.. well, if you are, at least try not to be, or you could look for nice people who could understand you well, and advise you.

 

Do what you think is best, and for being friends with others, be confident, as in real life you could experience many bullies and many others who won't like you at all however you are, there is at least 'something' they would not like about you/complain..

 

So my advise to you and the likes of you don't be afraid to be in company of others; in other words "Be confident"

 

Hope this helps ;)

[therider99 99]

stop going around insulting people. dont be a mult. i could go on but it would be pointless..

[AngeIs.And.Demons 1,988]

Well, took me 4 months to become popular, dont remember wut I did though

[Eragon 13,876]

Well, took me 4 months to become popular, dont remember wut I did though

Lol!  I became popular on the first hour!!

[therider99 99]

Lol!  I became popular on the first hour!!

lies!

[Remaine 4,687]

Lol!  I became popular on the first hour!!

Not in the positive way.

 

 

Please may I insist you stop contradicting me

 

Once in a while is okay but all the time to offend me isn't very nice. If I've posed a threat to you in any way then let this be a time of ease

 

In the dearest of respects could you be abit more positive please  ;)

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Don't get me started.