[Issue 1] [Real life problems] Arguments. What are they? How to stay away from them?

[golden5648 1,686]

Hello everyone :)

Yes, this is my 1st issue, and I had no idea what topic my issue should be related to. I contacted many mods if they could have a interview, I put my thinking caps on but I still didn't know what my issue should be related to.

 

So, here I am with my first issue, and I got this idea when a big fight between some of my family members happened. 

 

 

What are arguments? We all know it's meaning but I'll tell you its definition in a more complicated way.

 

Argument:

Some series of useful words between 2 or more people which can result to a big fight for a long time. Some arguments can be however useful.

 

Arguments have been a day to day hobby of us humans. Yes, I do mean hobby! Many people just like to do arguments for some and the others lose their temper and start blabbering rude words. I can show you a million examples ONLY ON Tanki itself!

 

 

 

Why should we avoid arguments? We should avoid them since many of them lead to fights. (The world war started from a huge argument, which then lead to a small fight. More countries joined someones side and the War started. A argument had lead to 15 Millon people get killed!)

 

Useless arguments also end with a big loss, it also wastes our time. Instead of arguing on a useless thing for more than 1 hour we can instead go to a long and healthy jog. Never take anybodies side on an argument unless the topic is useless or we don't know the whole story. If a person is right, take his side. But after some short minutes tell those who are arguing to stop. But its not so easy to!

 

How can we stop arguments? If we are arguing with someone then it's easy to stop the argument, however if some other people are arguing, it may take a long time to stop them. Sometimes if 2 people are arguing we should never try to stop them and simply go away. That would make you waste your time. But if people are arguing on the road/your house etc then we need to do someone quick.

 

 

 

If some guests/family members are arguing in our house - If some guests/family members are arguing and we are a child, never say anything between unless we need to. Let your parents do the job. But if you are a grown up and it's your house then simply try to stop them. Try to make their mind cool, and don't let anybody (and yourself) make loud noise. Offer both of them a glass of water and ask them why they are arguing, then afterwards send both of them to different rooms to take some rest and make their minds cool.

 

If some people are arguing in a public place - If your a child then don't read this, since we should never try to stop an argument if we are a child when some people are arguing on a public place. If your a grown-up and you have enough time that you can stop those people then you can do this. Try to get to know the story. Whoever is really wrong, he should get some punishment. If the wrong person has done something really bad (like theft) then call the police unless the person who got the loss allows to. If they are just arguing for a useless thing (Like someone accidentally pushed someone) then just  Simply try to make them stop. This would be easier if more people are trying to help you make them stop. If they don't listen, leave the place and mind your own business. 

 

If some students are arguing on school/college - Call the teacher if they start to fight badly. Easy lol... But there isn't much need to stop arguments on school, if they start to fight then do something. Don't take much mind on other people who are arguing on school. That would make you waste your time and distract you. But if you are itching to stop them its okay.

 

 

How to make our mind easy and calm: This isn't much hard if you have patience. However, if we are really angry on someone then try to relax your mind. If he has done a major bad thing give him a big punishment. Tell the teacher if he is a student, call the police if he has done a theft. If its your younger brother then you need to control yourselves. Count backwards when your very angry, or give yourselves a head massage and stay away from everyone. Go to the bed and get a nap then.

 

And yes, if we are more angry then our health can get affected.  :blink: So, always stay away from anger. Laugh and stay happy. :)

 

 

Thanks :)

 

 

 

 

 

 

[1stsuperwhitedragon 408]

Ah that's cool +1

[golden5648 1,686]

Ah that's cool +1

5550 posts, I feel that I am the Empire State building and your Burj Khalifa!  :rolleyes:  :ph34r:

[sahl_super 157]

real life problems ? i have only just problem that just going to school :wacko:  :unsure: . and writing exams i don't like. it nothing others..

[golden5648 1,686]

real life problems ? i have only just problem that just going to school :wacko:  :unsure: . and writing exams i don't like. it nothing others..

Going to School! Same here! But I can't create a topic about that sadly! :(

[1stsuperwhitedragon 408]

Going to School! Same here! But I can't create a topic about that sadly! :(

who wants to create a topic about that?! not me! <_<

[sahl_super 157]

Going to School! Same here! But I can't create a topic about that sadly! :(

B)  :rolleyes:

[Bydo 20,184]

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Edited July 6, 2015 by frozen_heart

[swede1 1,726]

Sorry, I don't agree. I feel it is important to speak your mind, holding in your feelings and putting on a happy face never solves a problem and is inherently unhealty, as in the case of Robin Williams, may he rest in peace.

hopefully people can find a way to work through their problems in a compassionate and thoughtful manner , but occasionally it can lead to arguments and anger, and that's OK too,take a break and figure out a way to work it out and in the long run everyone will be truly happier.

Edited June 26, 2015 by swede1

[Remaine 4,687]

Sorry, I don't agree. I feel it is important to speak your mind, holding in your feelings and putting on a happy face never salves a problem and is inherently unhealthy, as in the case of Robin Williams, may he rest in peace.

hopefully people can find a way to work through their problems in a compassionate and thoughtful manner , but occasionally it can lead to arguments and anger, and that's OK too,take a break and figure out a way to work it out and in the long run everyone will be truly happier.

[golden5648 1,686]

 

Sorry, I don't agree. I feel it is important to speak your mind, holding in your feelings and putting on a happy face never solves a problem and is inherently unhealthy, as in the case of Robin Williams, may he rest in peace.

hopefully people can find a way to work through their problems in a compassionate and thoughtful manner , but occasionally it can lead to arguments and anger, and that's OK too,take a break and figure out a way to work it out and in the long run everyone will be truly happier.

 

 

most of the time you can work things  out... the small things work them self`s out faster then the big issues... but in other times the big ones are hard to forgive and forget ..it depends completely on what happened and if it is a good friend who you see daily or close to it.. then you can work it out but if it`s a stranger on the net well that`s a whole different story cause really do you care for them and the same with them...most people lie to get ahead and for  others just  troll just to make a name for them self`s

 

so it really comes down to how important are they to you in your real life or

 

do you want them in your life to make your road to a better you

 

to forgive it helps you grow and if you don`t it can hurt and destroy you for the length that you hold on the the issues

 

Absolutely right, but I am talking about useless  arguments. :)

Edited June 27, 2015 by golden5648

[TriNitroToIuene 4,765]

Issue 1 of what?

[golden5648 1,686]

Issue 1 of what?

Real life problems mr TNT :)

[TriNitroToIuene 4,765]

*facepalm* That's the topic name

I'm asking that is it Issue 1 of any magazine etc.

[U.N.E.X.P.E.C.T.E.D 118]

It is important to have arguments in your life, this way you learn to have your own opinion and you learn how to defend it (or explain others why you think in that particular way about a subject). If I'm correct it is proved that arguments are very important in your life. It is also good for your relationship (or marriage) if you have arguments every now and then. The point is that you need to respect opinions from other people and don't push your opinion too hard.

[golden5648 1,686]

It is important to have arguments in your life, this way you learn to have your own opinion and you learn how to defend it (or explain others why you think in that particular way about a subject). If I'm correct it is proved that arguments are very important in your life. It is also good for your relationship (or marriage) if you have arguments every now and then. The point is that you need to respect opinions from other people and don't push your opinion too hard.

I am saying this the 3rd time! I am talking about useless arguments! 

[dilsharox 2,395]

nice

[E.Leclerc 1,887]

My real life problem? Depression, because of personal problems and all the arguments..

Edited June 29, 2015 by E.Leclerc

[eminem9870 605]

Nvm, I don't argue with people in RL except my sisters.. Tanki is a different situation.

Edited June 29, 2015 by eminem9870

[golden5648 1,686]

nice

Thanks :)

 

My real life problem? Depression, because of personal problems and all the arguments..

Yep, especially those which have no use...

 

Nvm, I don't argue with people in RL except my sisters.. Tanki is a different situation.

Lol! I have a big sister, if I ever argue with her she complains to my parents!  :(  :angry:

[BlitzPanzer12345 241]

seriously ?

i always want to have an informal debate with someone

but most either declare i am mad or i am arguing or they are totally right

[Ambitious 2,084]

Nice article!

[golden5648 1,686]

Nice article!

Thanks! :)

[pizzaslad 471]

I argue about anything that  I don't like. From why mass-production cars have spoilers to why something happened in a movie, I can spend an entire day mumbling, grumbling or voicing it aloud :D

[golden5648 1,686]

he was in away talking about it if you think about it ..if you can control your temper in a fight then you can debate in a better way for example heated conversation and when it starts going higher in yelling then you need to learn to back off cool down and think with a open mind and solve the delema /debate of what your point you were trying to say..more you can stay cool or learn to control your angry then its a better /  a calmer debate in the end..

Nice words :)