Emotional Breakdown

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

 

 

Before reading up this post, I have these really basic questions for you guys. And I hope you answer honestly to yourself. Have you ever gone through any sort of mental/emotional breakdown? Have you ever felt completely lost in your life because of a particular mishap or an incident? Have you ever felt as if you are trapped in a deep trench of depression and you have no idea whatsoever how  to get out of it? If your answer to any of these questions is yes, then do not worry because its 200% normal to feel like this. Trust me.

Look, I am no Brian Tracy or Robin Sharma that I can give you a really prophetic and utterly motivating speech out here. What I can do is that I can tell you about my experience and what I learnt from it. I was facing a low point in my life back in September 2012.  It was surely one of the worst months of my life till now. I had a really tough break up and trust me I hate myself back in last September. I had absolutely no idea about what I was feeling and what I was doing at that point. The only thing that I did was going to my college for lectures, putting up a nice smile on my face to show people that I am absolutely normal, literally eating half my appetite and then going back to sleep without doing anything remotely productive. I was emotionally so numb that I did not find the motivation to do anything good for myself. I started writing about every day that was passing in my diary and I recorded all my feelings in those pages. I wrote about how everything is a lie and how people just leave when you need them the most. I was away from my parents and had no one to talk about what I was feeling. Yes, I had my friends and best friends but I did not want to bore them with my tragedies and feelings. Now there is good news and bad news about an emotional or mental breakdown. Bad news is that it sucks. It sucks big time. You will hate yourself and negativity will become an ally. You will criticize everything around you and if you are not so mentally strong enough like how I was then the breakdown will affect your professional life or your academics. All of this is bound to happen. Good news is that you will get out of it. Time will play its magic and everything will be back to normal. And when you will be finally out of it, you will realize that you are no more the same person. You will realize that you are emotionally a stronger and better person. You have learnt from your mistakes and you will become more mature. You will learn your ways to deal with depression and difficult times. 

Let me talk about an interesting concept. Human Life is just like an ECG wave. It goes up and it goes down. Simple. Every single person has a lot of ups and downs, moments of success and moments of failures. It is neither an increasing linear wave nor a decreasing liner wave. The nature of life  is just like this ECG wave. Never ever expect your life to go perfect. Happiness is not a constant thing. Obviously if happiness is not constant, then do not expect failure to be constant. If a person is constantly happy or sad, he is dead. Period. I would really love to share my perspective about breakdowns. An emotional breakdown has three stages:

• The stage where everything is going good- I am pretty sure you know what I mean when I talk about the first stage. Everything is going good. Everyone around you is happy. Suddenly, someone pushes you from behind and you enter the second stage. You fall in the big quicksand.

 

• The Quicksand stage-  This is the stage where the true strength of a person is gauged. This is the stage where winners and ordinary people are differentiated. More than half of the world's population is stuck in this quicksand. This is the stage just after the breakdown. The numbness and the pain. Everything combines to give you this stage. This is the stage where the first thing you lose is your self-confidence.  The huge LEGO tower of self-confidence that you have been building each day by stacking up tiny blocks. It gets broken and all the blocks are back on floor. Zero self-confidence. Zero self-esteem.  You will feel all of this in the quicksand stage. The important thing to remember out here is that you are stuck in a quicksand.  You are drowning slowly. You have limited time to figure a way out of it. As I said earlier, when you are in the quicksand stage, cynicism becomes your ally. You do not believe in yourself.  You do not believe that there is a way to get out of it.  You do not make any efforts and accept the fact that you are never ever going to get out of this quicksand. This is the point where 90% of the people stuck in the quicksand will eventually settle for their fate and spend their entire lives in the quicksand. The 10% that do not are the ones who have the ability to keep moving forward. They have the courage to believe in themselves when no one does. They have the courage to fight back. Unlike the ordinary people, they look around and search for the smallest of the small twigs that can help them get out of there. Such people who have the courage to be mentally strong under such conditions are the people who are called as winners. And once they finally get out of it, they enter the third stage inevitably.

 

• The stage of Success- Great Job! You are in the elite 10% club. Feel proud. This is the stage where you have regained all your confidence and self-esteem. You feel on top of the world. You feel more mature and realize the intensity of a battle you have won against yourself. Feel Good!

So now you know what an emotional breakdown really is. To conclude, I would just say that never ever stop trusting yourself. You will meet many people who will discourage you. Always believe in yourself. Life will throw hundreds of such difficult moments. See it as an opportunity to fight back with a brave heart and emerge as a stronger,better and more mature person. Period.

Edited June 15, 2016 by F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R

[Mr.Latvian 3,597]

Awesome image. Awesome article. As usual. King makes king article <3

[Hex 11,520]

Deep man. Deep. Good job, loved it.

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

Awesome image. Awesome article. As usual. King makes king article <3

Thanks for your awesome feedback <3

 

Deep man. Deep. Good job, loved it.

Yes, it's kind of deep. Thank you  :)

[Mr.Latvian 3,597]

Thanks for your awesome feedback <3

I don't know on what I was when wrote it. But let me rephrase it. 

Wonderful and deep article! This is why many of BFM and many other clan members were so motivated, when we had you! Awesome writer, wonderful leader and a great friend, you didn't lose faith in yourself and didn't allow others do it!  :wub:

[BlueDragon_tamki 3,204]

Sas story! I liked it. Nice job and I'm sorry about your break up

Edited June 15, 2016 by BlueDragon_tamki

[Overlord 218]

Yeah bro good story 

I am really sry about ur break :unsure:  :unsure:  :unsure:

[Quarks 2,255]

Wow, this is my life in a nutshell. Still struggling to get out of the quicksand though.

[need.higher.rank 3,491]

So emotional xD

[asifmehmood 1,576]

Hmmm.......Nice

[mydoom.exe 5,154]

No, you are not Brian Tracy or Robin Sharma - but you are just as good as them.

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

I don't know on what I was when wrote it. But let me rephrase it. 

Wonderful and deep article! This is why many of BFM and many other clan members were so motivated, when we had you! Awesome writer, wonderful leader and a great friend, you didn't lose faith in yourself and didn't allow others do it!  :wub:

Thank you, Jan! I deeply appreciate your constant support from day one till now  ;)

 

Sas story! I liked it. Nice job and I'm sorry about your break up

 

Yeah bro good story 

I am really sry about ur break :unsure:  :unsure:  :unsure:

Thank you. I'm back with her since 4 years and we are planning to make it legal   :)

 

 

+1 and I can't much say about mah life.........

 

 

Wow, this is my life in a nutshell. Still struggling to get out of the quicksand though.

Life get's tough around this time of your life. You need to rise up to life's challenges and be positive when dealing with them. Never give up on yourself, mate. You will find the light inside you. Be calm and composed at all times  :)

 

So emotional xD

 

 

Hmmm.......Nice

Thank you  ^_^

 

No, you are not Brian Tracy or Robin Sharma - but you are just as good as them.

Well I wouldn't agree. They are far superior in terms of experience.

[mydoom.exe 5,154]

Well I wouldn't agree. They are far superior in terms of experience.

>when I try to compliment someone

 

Ah well, great job on writing this, loved it, +1000000, plz post moar plspls please?, you are amazing at this king of stuff, (insert a whole lot more compliments I can't be bothered to type down because there's too many).

Edited June 16, 2016 by mydoom.exe

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

>when I try to compliment someone

 

Ah well, great job on writing this, loved it, +1000000, plz post moar plspls please?, you are amazing at this king of stuff, (insert a whole lot more compliments I can't be bothered to type down because there's too many).

I can't help, but smile. Yes I will be editing my works and posting it here. Thanks man!

[ToHoYoNTaDa 1,147]

You hated yourself but I hate myself even now...

Don't wanna live in this world...

Wanna see a new world that is in heavens!

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

You hated yourself but I hate myself even now...

Don't wanna live in this world...

Wanna see a new world that is in heavens!

Then what if after you die, God asked you how was Heaven ?

[ToHoYoNTaDa 1,147]

Then what if after you die, God asked you how was Heaven ?

I'll b very happy to die!

That will be the most Good Day of my visit to this world!

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

I'll b very happy to die!

That will be the most Good Day of my visit to this world!

Be happy to live, equally.

That's good to know.

[zaintahir 458]

I did feel like this a week or two ago, I was worrying so much I got a stomach ache and I almost vomited, But I feel much better now.

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

I did feel like this a week or two ago, I was worrying so much I got a stomach ache and I almost vomited, But I feel much better now.

Your mind is a powerful thing. When fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.Nothing great ever came easy. Fall seven times, stand up eight. You may not be able to control every situation and its outcome, but you can control your attitude and how you deal with it. Never quit, son. If you stumble, get back up. What happened yesterday no longer matters. Today's another day. So get back on track and move closer to your dreams and goals. You can do it. Your only limit is you. Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together, mate. These are not said by me. I'm just a devotee of experienced words.

 

You're welcome, Zain  :)

[I3eg-For-Mercy 1,102]

You know..

I never read articles in Tanki Forum (Specially the huge articles) I just go through them.

I was just passing by and saw a post from @F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R which really encouraged me to Go and read this.

From what I saw, I'm so amazed. After a long time I see a article with deep meaning, life lessons, motivational words here.

This was one of the best things I have ever read, What you have written there is so True.

Your article is Motivational and I like it. 

Great respect for you for writing this and to be honest I really learned so much from this, that how to think Positively and overcome the barriers and make your life Successful!

Thank You Fini, so much respect <3

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

You know..

I never read articles in Tanki Forum (Specially the huge articles) I just go through them.

I was just passing by and saw a post from @F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R which really encouraged me to Go and read this.

From what I saw, I'm so amazed. After a long time I see a article with deep meaning, life lessons, motivational words here.

This was one of the best things I have ever read, What you have written there is so True.

Your article is Motivational and I like it. 

Great respect for you for writing this and to be honest I really learned so much from this, that how to think Positively and overcome the barriers and make your life Successful!

Thank You Fini, so much respect <3

Thank you so much BFM. I'm really glad you had the time to read this article. I'm happy  :)

Edited June 18, 2016 by F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R

[Yisroel.Rabin 16,224]

Amazing work, very deep. But I want to say something, I've gone through depression at a certain stage, I can't truly understand or tell myself if I've overcome it, it seems to be there at points, and sometimes it doesn't. The way I used to overcome depression is see what was wrong, it usually had to do with life matters, and told myself that I'm lucky that I have a much easier life than that guy out there. It's an interesting method, but it does help a lot, I met a guy on Tanki, in a good clan and everything (used to be somewhat popular), he has a tough life, tougher than mine. It feels cruel to say he helped me forget my depression through his, but it's sort of true. Once I saw how bad his life was, I realized mine was perfectly fine compared to his. And his life may also be perfectly normal compared to another guy out there.

[beaku 2,656]

Awesome! Cheers to good mental health! XD

I've been through over 300+ days of depression which, quite honestly, adversely affected extremely important exams. Although I tried everything to get rid of it, nothing really worked. For many years, it has been my principle to remain indifferent to external stimuli. To remain neutral. To be neither happy nor sad. As it turns out, that path is tougher than anything else. Though much of the issue is individual-specific, one advice which applies in general is to never hesitate to ask for help. Ask the most trusted people, your parents, friends, teachers, etc. Don't think that they'll judge you or despise you for it (if they do, well, they're fake. Get rid of them). Don't even hesitate to ask for professional help if you feel it might help you. Above everything else, remember that nothing is everything. It's just a phase. It'll pass... And it'll be back again. Never take the extreme step. 'Ending your life won't end the pain. It'll just pass it on to someone else.' Keep going, never back down and you'll survive. ;)

[F.I.N.I.S.H.E.R 2,397]

Amazing work, very deep. But I want to say something, I've gone through depression at a certain stage, I can't truly understand or tell myself if I've overcome it, it seems to be there at points, and sometimes it doesn't. The way I used to overcome depression is see what was wrong, it usually had to do with life matters, and told myself that I'm lucky that I have a much easier life than that guy out there. It's an interesting method, but it does help a lot, I met a guy on Tanki, in a good clan and everything (used to be somewhat popular), he has a tough life, tougher than mine. It feels cruel to say he helped me forget my depression through his, but it's sort of true. Once I saw how bad his life was, I realized mine was perfectly fine compared to his. And his life may also be perfectly normal compared to another guy out there.

I'll tell you what actually happened. You changed your attitude towards your life. Your perspective changed about a lot of things. You might not have noticed that but it sure changed your life. I am glad you took time to share your story and in a way, throw light into many who read it.

 

Awesome! Cheers to good mental health! XD

I've been through over 300+ days of depression which, quite honestly, adversely affected extremely important exams. Although I tried everything to get rid of it, nothing really worked. For many years, it has been my principle to remain indifferent to external stimuli. To remain neutral. To be neither happy nor sad. As it turns out, that path is tougher than anything else. Though much of the issue is individual-specific, one advice which applies in general is to never hesitate to ask for help. Ask the most trusted people, your parents, friends, teachers, etc. Don't think that they'll judge you or despise you for it (if they do, well, they're fake. Get rid of them). Don't even hesitate to ask for professional help if you feel it might help you. Above everything else, remember that nothing is everything. It's just a phase. It'll pass... And it'll be back again. Never take the extreme step. 'Ending your life won't end the pain. It'll just pass it on to someone else.' Keep going, never back down and you'll survive. ;)

I loved your post. It shows a lot of foregone pain and sweat. I agree with what you have written. Asking for help from the right people in your circle will improve your situation. Reading books, meditation, yoga and playing a sport you love will be an added advantage to your mood.

 

Anyways, thanks for both of your feedbacks.