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Weall love u limmy, everyone in HD!

The part with DDoS almost made me cry. It's been about six months since he disappeared...

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Refering to *lies,lies,lies*

 

I make no joke, or exaggeration, when I say this brought a tear to my eye, I could sense how heartfelt it was, and it really gave me the exact picture of what happened. And yes, I don't care whether you are 25,45, or even 90. You have a great personality and always cheer me up whenever I see you. You bring out the spark in the dimmest of people, you are one of those "special" amazing people who care about others.

What you did was with regard for *Jane*. Anyone may have freaked if you automatically told them your real age, but as said, age is a number. Nothing more, nothing less.

There are, amazing people in this world, and there are, too, ones which let us down. We should all be believing in the best of people, and never assume that they may not be as good as they say there are, yes there is natural human instinct. But sometimes, it doesn't matter what to do from your brain, but your heart.

Don't get upset, months have been put into a great friendship, which may be possibly temporarily broken now. But yet even if the shatters of glass lay down forever, you will still have the memory.

Oh sweet memories. You will have memories of how excited you were to read a message, or how fun it would be to play with each other.

 

If we were all to judge people by age, then no one can really have a good life, as they will have a few good years in the beginning. But as they progress through the slow journey of life itself, they become mistreated.

 

Overall, still an emotional article. If *Jane* could see you truly felt this way, I have no doubt that the friendship would be reunited once again and the shards of the glass lay down, seeming impossible to reunite. They too will join once again to make a beautiful glass window....

A window which...

Brings everyone, closer.. Together.

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Thanks Dedi.  It was bad enough for me to lose my mother last Fall and have to go through the 1st Mothers Day on Sunday without her.  Then all this happened Monday.  I'm on Day 3.  If I could cry anymore on your response, as well as gabs and ttk and parass and tofu (and others offline), then it would be of happiness finally....
Sometimes life can suck, but I really do appreciate this crew of online friends + besties.  [where we really don't know each other in RL]

I know there have been differences between lots of people, but I relish the ability for everyone to get through it.

Thank you to Tanki for making it happen.  14.5 months into this, still love it.

:( :wub: :D

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Luscious Limmy's Guide to Life

 

i guess the video gets it point across but i wouldnt just show her the video without explaining some things...
 
 like honestly i dont support what that guy did, those kids are probably extremely scarred and antisocial. i know i would have been if that happened to me.
 
 if your going to show your daugher that, wait until shes older for sure, at least 13, or whenever you get her a phone, and please just explain that the internet is a great way to meet new people, and expose yourself to different world cultures, but just be able to identify a pedo from an actual person who claims to be what they actually are. video chats and even voice calls are a great way to confirm that. i know people who have found the love of there life over the internet, and i wouldnt want you to restrict that from happening to your daughter.
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i guess the video gets it point across but i wouldnt just show her the video without explaining some things...

TEEN HELPS LUSCIOUS LIMMY WITH DAUGHTER ISSUES

 

U R the Smexiest Giraffe in the world...  We are all lucky to know you!!!

 

SG here is referring to the YouTube link in http://en.tankiforum.com/index.php?showtopic=357036#entry6138557. I love the above note as proof that teens can teach parents ( but don't expect everything you are trying to get away with is right!!  LOL)

The guy in the video, with the blessing and delusion of 3 sets of parents, tried to work his way into their sphere of friendship, and then place them in very potentially dangerous situations.  Could happen to any boy or girl.  Or even adult for that matter.

 

Trust is so hard.  I grew up very sheltered and would have never ever thought something like this could happen.  It is a scary video, and I agree those 3 kids who 'starred' are probably "over"-freaked out now.

Life is sad that these things even possibly exist.  Just watch out for each other, help protect each other.

And thank you @SmexierGiraffe for the advice I will use in the coming couple of years...

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And I have the smexiest paint collection :P

 

Limit, check the pm. I can't be bothered to write it again.

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Limit, check the pm. I can't be bothered to write it again.

Thx Dedi for the PM.  And I threw down a thx in our SkypeSpam too.

I knowa u to be a good guy.  Glad to have had you around, especially this week.

I'm good now.  And I'm here if u need anything too (except crystals hhh).

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Umm...how old are you??? I though you were 15 ir something :o

Hmm... I'd tell you, his age is more like:

 

"WHAT'S 9 PLUS 10?"

"21!!!"

 

and you add a few more.

 

"a few more" :ph34r: :ph34r: :ph34r:

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LIES, LIES, and MORE LIES… WHY?

 

Why do people lie?  I googled this exact question, and then read the first 2 articles that popped up…

Oh, there were more FOR SURE.  But I don’t have all freakin’ day here folks!!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-i-m-approach/201702/why-do-people-lie

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/women-who-stray/201701/6-reasons-people-lie-when-they-don-t-need

 

I’m not going to go into a lot of details, but to just summarize my situation.  What did I lie about and why… 

Also importantly, why am I saying all this.  Yes, there is someone this is directed to… I really hope she takes the time to read below.

 

From the first article, I most closely relate to “maintaining a social status”.  When I first got into Tanki, I felt like there were a lot of older people chatting with me, who directed me to Clans, suggesting there were ‘mature’ folks there.  I was a noob, I didn’t realize it was full of teens…  But when I got into a Clan, it seemed 12-18 was the normal range.  OK I thought … let me drop my age to a bit closer.  I’m still young enough to remember the teens and some of the problems I had … maybe I can help a few people…

Looking back to some of the original people I had chatted with the first month, they seemed to be like 30-60.  Maybe there are people that troll the low ranks, looking for noob recruits for bad purposes. 

Watch out, don’t provide personal details.  Your parents have said it before.  I worry about everyone that could be impressionable.  1 or 2 years ago I saw a scary video.  Just found it again now.  Watch this.  And watch out…  God, it is making me want to cry, or scream, to keep my little girl safe…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jMhMVEjEQg

 

From the second article, this comes similarly in point #3 – I didn’t want to lose the respect of people around me.  I thought if my clanmates knew I was older, they would think I couldn’t relate to them.  I liked being part of the group as I got into it, and thought I had something to give back.  To build a bridge for the next generation coming through.  To share some of my experiences and how I got through them…

 

So, the back story….

I started playing agar.io because my son was playing it a lot at home, and I wanted to find a connection with him, so we could have fun in stuff that he liked.  I played most days at lunch, until I was able to reach first place pretty much every day (The Biggest Blob!).  But then my office turned off that website.  Moving to miniclip.com, where I knew he also searched games, I found Tanki.  The first month, I would always link in through miniclip, until I realized Tanki had their own website.  Then I found the Forum, and Clans…

 

Realistically, I also wanted to have some fun in the middle of the work day.  To try and understand what my kids may start to come across as they get closer to teenage years became a side benefit.  As the days turned to weeks turned to a couple of months, I found the Happy Dragons Clan.  And then I stayed with Tanki, because of them.  The Clan.  The people that helped me through my mom getting ill last year, and ultimately dying last Fall.  #CancerSucks!

The team of people that helped me try to forget the crappy parts of life, a return to the days of freedom and without care.  Just pure unbridled fun.  That's what gaming provides.  Or is supposed to.  Until you actually start to find a real friend.  Someone that is ready to share more than you are, someone who you enjoy talking with and sharing stories with…

 

I'm done of hiding behind something unreal.  No, I'm not going to give you my name, SIN, birthdate, phone number and home address and any other personally confidential information. 

 

TRUTH:  Friends, I'm older than your big brother.  I am not 25, but I am 45.  I've not been here in any bad way -> just to have fun playing a game, and help where I could.  Everything that I've said is true, just adjusted by 20 years...  To start it off, my Guju Princess (that I have always written to my online friends about) and I have been together just over 20 years, not just married last summer while my mom was sick.  I have a 14 year old son, and a daughter turning 11 in a couple of weeks.

I have always felt more of a fatherly role in keeping my Tanki friends safe.  But at the same time, wanting to be a supportive friend too, where I could be.  I had grown up wanting to help the world.  Trying to figure out where.  Tanki started to become such a vehicle for a message.  Sort of like a Dear Abby penname.  I had hoped to informally reach at least 1 person and make their life better.  @DragonOfStorms knew that I was older when he invited me to the Clan, I think I told him 35 first, but then when everyone started becoming teens, I moved to 25 just for a more 'relatable' feel, as people asked later on.  Then it became the auto-answer.  Sorry.

 

I hope that I have cleared the air, and that it isn't totally freaky.  Tanki friends keep telling me there is no reason to give personal info if it can be avoided.  We are here to play a game...  Personally, it doesn't change how “I” think about Tanki, and it doesn't change how much I care about all the wonderful people that I have met here, and that have helped give me some advice during the past 2 days, as I struggled through some true pain..

As a wise teen once said to me (this morning) “Age is an illusion and doesn't change how I see anyone”.  Thanks bro.

 

So WHY AM I WRITING ALL THIS…

 

I really hope she reads this, and that it will help her move on, to achieve all the great things that I know she can.

To protect the innocent, I will only call her Jane here.  Jane Doe.  I care for her as my little sister.

So I'm doing this for my lost Tanki friend, Jane. Someone that I never expected to even begin talking with (except for clan recruiting), to get so close to, to enjoy exchanging messages with.

 

Jane helped me realize my mom’s everyday message – to stop and smell the roses.  To always bring joy, youth, passion, energy and enthusiasm to what we have around us.  To enjoy music again (my mom was VERY musical).  To appreciate life.  Always and forever.  Age is just a number.  We don’t have to stop feeling all of the great things that youth allows us to … without the baggage that continues to grow as you get older …

 

Through the eyes of youth, Jane also helped me renew my relationship with my wife, with my kids, and has made me commit to being a better person – both inside and out.

 

When Jane had personal concerns, I tried to be there for help, to boost her up, to give her some tools to overcome issues.  In trying to decide what to do next in life, I tried offering ways to help look at it.  If she wanted to travel the world with her friend, I wanted to give her a free place to stay for a week or two in Toronto, to show her around the things we shared.

 

Jane made me cry last night, it was such a hard thing to get out of bed this morning for my favorite spin cycle class.

Sadly, I think I probably made Jane cry last night also.  That is probably what has hurt me the most.

 

I know I lied about my age.  And that was wrong.  But this was just supposed to be a game.  How did I let the game turn into Real Life…?!?  Games are supposed to be fun.  The past week has been hard, my friends....

Thankfully most of my Tanki peeps the past day have been supportive, and just asking lots of questions – how often do you find out that you can approach someone that is roughly the age of your parent, plays the same game and be youthful, yet have some extra years of wisdom…  I only want to help…

 

Jane, if you are reading this … I was sooo close to giving my personal information last month, until you sent me your Facebook page that almost looked fake – barely anything there but a few gorgeous pictures.  Immediately I withdrew, thinking there was no way this could be real…  Must be an old guy trolling for confidential information and fake identities…

All the time we spent learning about each other, as new friends would.  I will never be able to do that again online.

I am so so sorry.  For ever doubting you.  For hurting you.

 

But folks, as much as Jane may have hated feeling duped and having her trust broken, I am also upset about her reactions.  I shared a lot of personal details of my life that some of my good Real Life friends don't know.  Jane kept saying it wouldn't matter about who I was and what I looked like, but that I was there for her support.  I had messages like “i don't care about how u look, u already got me with ur personality”.

All I ever wanted to do was help...  [swearing inside my head] ---->>>>  that didn't seem to work out so well...

Seems we both lied…?

 

From the moment I thought Jane became a friend, I was looking for an opportunity to tell her the truth from that moment on, rather than just stopping completely and disappearing.  I don't like to take the easy road - the high road is sometimes hard.

I have always believed in fate.  The world had somehow pushed us in front of each other, now I’m so unsure why…

 

I just don't ever want to again be told that I hurt someone and betrayed their trust.  Jane asked me to never do that again, and so I'm opening myself up.  For better, or for worse.

 

I’m sure everyone is going through the problems I remember having – trying to find my identity, and growing up in general.  Trying to decide how to move into adulthood, university, jobs, and the stuff that comes next as we all venture out of the parental nest…

 

Just be careful.  Games are games.  Friends are friends.  Online can be hard to turn into Real Life.

I still believe in the good of all people, but also everyone needs to know that you could be hurt.  In various forms.

   xoxo, Limmy.  :wub: :ph34r:

 

PS - please feel free to share your experiences - with lies - or moving online game friends to direct contacts...

It may help me understand the world a bit more.

 

 

 

Good article. All that I can say.

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I'd actually watched that video some time ago. I actually never share personal information online, except my 'vague' age and 'country.' (Except KillerGnat, that chap managed to get hold of my email address and I got his surname :p ) There is one group in chess.com where I'm very very close too, we've never met, but they are like my family. We stick together and defend each other! We had dark days when us 5 admins were fighting trolls determined to get into the group and cause havoc.  I feel that thats how you feel about the Happy Dragons, so I can relate to you ;)

 

*jaw drops*  You're 45? *cough cough* well as I've ALWAYS said to my friends, age doesn't count in frienship. As a ThirdCultureKid I've always been chatty with adults. Plus all my friends are either 2 years younger, or two years older, only 2 are the same age :p  I suppose 30ish years don't make a difference either ;)

 

This is a REALLY bit jump to conclusions. but is your name Leslie? Everything seems to fit with another guy I know from chess.com....1 daughter 1 son, plays computer games, mum had cancer.... :huh: 

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Fleety - you have been a good friend for quite some time.  Sorry to have you find out I'm a little older than u once thought.  Might all make more sense now too though?  I truly did enjoy 'our personal circle' chats with another dear friend...

 

M-axis - I've always enjoyed throwing people off a little.  Like that cheeky bugger @Tofu.  Be unpredictable a bit in life.  Change course, try something new...  Don't worry, this past year has taught me that it doesn't matter if you are the teen or the parent - most of the language is the same, with only little changes - like how "OP" today was like "Totally Rad" many years ago...  lol     We are all just humans, trying to find a direction and reason for life.  I have a much better appreciation for the people of tomorrow now.  The world will be in good hands while you are working to pay for my retirement hhh!!

OH, on the way into work today, this song was playing..   Seemed fitting for this week and me. (I love music so much more now - thank you "JANE" - even if it is hard to listen to some songs).   Look it up on youtube.com    -    Avril Lavigne - Complicated (Official Video)

LASTLY, LOL, nope, I'm not Leslie.  Glad to see I'm not the only one that needs an outlet online..  You know, we didn't have this option when I was a teenager...

 

Thanks Shresth for the post.  Appreciate the support!!

 

And Prison is just a room.

PPS MAKES LIMMY LAUGH / PONDER WHY HE TAKES TIME FOR TANKI

... AND MORE LIFE THOUGHTS

 

OH MY gawd - thank u for that laugh PPS!   "Jane" said that exact same quote one day too.  Yikes.  :D

 

"Someone" asked me a question today in Skype.  I thought it was worthwhile to share my thought...

Q:  Limmy?  Why are you playing TO then?  Shouldn't you be spending time with your family instead?

 

A:  I normally only play at work.  But srsly, I don't know.  like drak just said, its a way to unwind, to escape.
I've been thinking about it some the last 2 days too.  The "WHY".  There are always reasons, of which there are always options, across a whole spectrum of black and white, and the at least 50 shades of grey in between.
I think the best reason(s) - new friends, new ideas, escape from reality, stress reduction, anonymity... u can share a lot of internal confusions, while u don't have to look like a complete dork B)  around the people you know and love everyday...?
Of course, it is important for my kids to know that no one knows everything, and that we all make mistakes.  And we do talk about that and other certain things, especially when I'm tucking them into bed, saying prayers, rubbing their backs, just being close at an end-of-day unwind point.  Especially if I've been a really dumb f*ck with them that day, or yelled too much taking my other stresses out on something little they have done.  It happens.  No one is perfect.  But I try to learn from what I experience...

There are no courses to be a parent.  You take what happened to you as you grew up - that is your base expectation.  But life doesn't have to be that way.  Be a DIVERGENT (like the movie / book series).  Learn from what you see around you, what you read, what your friends are saying as they experience life.  You can focus on the parts that you like - and try to discard the parts that were hard on you, or that you didn't like.

As I think I once said to Jane (sad that I listened to her request and deleted everything now), my mom (RIP mom I love u 4ever) had a tough life growing up.  Between the beatings and mental abuse and having to pay rent at 12yo just to stay at home, she became obsessed with making sure me and my younger sister had nothing but love and attention.  It helped a lot knowing that she was always there, supporting us in anything.  It gave an amount of confidence that we could go out and try anything, and that it was OK to fail.

Just because you have a life, doesn't mean it is the only life you get.  You can do anything, become anything.  But it takes effort and knowledge and the right help.

If I could wish anything for anyone actually reading this ... go out and be better.  Be great.  Be the best you can be.

(not trying to sound like a US Army commercial)... ;)

Oh, changed to the white colors today.  I tried to read my green on the phone last night for first time ... was hard to see.

Just can't be normal grey ... sorry ... habit.

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Don't. Steal. My. Colour. :p jk jk...I only even use it when Im on the computer. Dunno how to on phones...

 

Wishing you the best! :)

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Man this is deep...

 

I don't really know how to phrase this, but here goes:

I've had a few minor metal problems in my life, had some suicidal thoughts, but got over them.

 

Suicide solves nothing. I speak from some experience as one of my cousins committed suicide a few years ago, seemingly out of the blue. It creates guilt in family members, it leaves holes in family and society. I know that when you have these thoughts, you think no one cares. But they do. People love you. I don't want this to sound like pathetic pandering, so I'm not sure how much further I should go.

 

Friends, tankers, countrymen. People. If you know someone, and you think they are in a dark place, don't just give them your number and say, "call me". If they are in a dark place, they aren't going to want to initiate a conversation. You have to start it. Go off-topic, start with something simple, "what's your favourite football team", anything. Get a conversation going. Be there for them. Be a shoulder for them to cry on if they need it. If you are there for them in a dark place, then you could save their life.

 

 

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​This is the "Life Calendar" (created by Tim Urban) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU

There is one box here for every week of a ninety year life. Think about it. You've already been through quite a lot of these boxes already. Limit has seen half. Every seven days, you lose another box. That's over ten thousand minutes gone.

 

"KAISMULT GET TO THE POINT"

 

Ok, the point is this: life is short. Its topsy-turvy. You spend the first 18-25 years of your life learning skills you will (for the most part) never use. Then you spend two thirds of what's left earning money to pass on to your children (if you happen to be lucky and awesome enough to get a wife/guju princess) and for you to do all kinds of things you are no longer physically able to do. Life makes no sense to me.

 

For life is quite absurd, and death's the final word. You must always face the curtain with a  bow! Forget about your sin, give the audience a grin, enjoy it, its your last chance anyhow!

SO always look on the bright side of death (whistle)

Just before you draw your terminal breath (whistle)

Life's a piece of s***. When you look at it. Life's a laugh and death's a joke, it's true. You'll see it's all a show, keep 'em laughing as you go. Just remember, the last laugh is on you!

AND

Always look on the bright side of life (whistle)

Always look on the right side of life (whistle)

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Fleety - you have been a good friend for quite some time.  Sorry to have you find out I'm a little older than u once thought.  Might all make more sense now too though?  I truly did enjoy 'our personal circle' chats with another dear friend...

I'm fine. Just a little tired after running a few miles in school today

 

Glad to hear that you enjoyed writing with me and "another dear friend," as you put it.

 

You know, I'm probably slightly younger than what you might think.

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@Kaisdf, then why are you spending several of those boxes completely on TO :P

Making friends, getting away from a pretty dam stressful life rn...

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I've had a few minor metal problems in my life, had some suicidal thoughts, but got over them.

Suicide solves nothing. I speak from some experience as one of my cousins committed suicide a few years ago, seemingly out of the blue. It creates guilt in family members, it leaves holes in family and society. I know that when you have these thoughts, you think no one cares. But they do. People love you. I don't want this to sound like pathetic pandering, so I'm not sure how much further I should go.

MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS - it affects us all...

 

Kaiser.  Buddy.  U aren't alone.

I think it's likely passed through almost everyone's mind at least once.  I know I had the thoughts a few times myself - mostly in the teens.  Now I'm wondering, is it actually just normal??   Do we ALL have these many weird thoughts and emotions???   I guess in the end, it is what we decide to do about it, and how much effort we want to put into making changes for the better.

Not sure they ever stop, but they definitely slow down after high school.

We've never met in person, but I care.   I'm weird, but I care about the Clan and all the Happy Dragons in it.  Everyone who has posted there or on Skype, had some type of activity.

Sorta wish DoS would come back one day so I could tell him.  You guys helped me thru the dark months of my mom's cancer.  And in general, just helped provide a break from the reality around us.  Blowing up other tanks has been truly therapeutic...!

 

This is the "Life Calendar" (created by Tim Urban) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU

There is one box here for every week of a ninety year life. Think about it. You've already been through quite a lot of these boxes already. Limit has seen half. Every seven days, you lose another box. That's over ten thousand minutes gone.

LOVE "TED TALKS"!!!  More and more stories from everyday people on such a wide variety of topics.

Oh gawd - thanks for pointing out my life is half over...   :wacko:  But I don't care right now - I'm in better shape now than when I was 25.

 

Glad to hear that you enjoyed writing with me and "another dear friend," as you put it.

You know, I'm probably slightly younger than what you might think.

Didn't want to write her name Fleety ... make everyone jealous, and then remind the Clan of someone else that has turned off Tanki...

As much as I don't really care how old I am, it doesn't matter how old u r either.   10 - 12 - 14 - 16.   You've had some pretty intelligent and mature things come out on print before.  You will do well.   I know it.

 

HEAT HITS TORONTO!!  YAY!!!

SIDE TOPIC:

  ->  THANK YOU TO THE FIREBIRD GODS for finally bringing heat to Toronto yesterday....  Hit 32C, jumping from like 10C the day before!!   And today again!!  I looove the heat.  http://prntscr.com/f9a3v5

Car windows down, sunroof open, music blasting almost as loud as the stereo will allow it... and me screaming along (singing?) and loving the drive!!   Thanks again JANE for bringing that back to me!  Some of my favorite current songs (and 1 older fave) all played in a row!!

   > Kygo, Selena Gomez - It Ain't Me

   > Julia Michaels - Issues

   > LMFAO - Party Rock Anthem ft. Lauren Bennett, GoonRock

The only thing that could have made it better was if Clean Bandit - Rockabye ft. Sean Paul & Anne-Marie [Official Video]   -and-   Coldplay - Hymn For The Weekend (Official Video) came on too... (love the India / Holi parts in there ... I miss India - only 12 days a couple of years ago, but so wonderful!!!   Ap kaisa ho bhais!?)   :ph34r:

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So much more has been added :o better start reading

*Just read Lies Lies Lies*

 

Its good that you told the truth or may I say a truthteller

I have a question though who is jane?

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So much more has been added :o better start reading

*Just read Lies Lies Lies*

 

Its good that you told the truth or may I say a truthteller

I have a question though who is jane?

He said. Jane is the fake name he assigned to an online friend of his. He changed the name to protect their privacy.

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