How do I approach my crush?

[iamnoni_PRO 46]

I am having trouble approaching my first crush. I can only meet her once an year since she's my cousin's friend so whenever they have a get-together I join in too.But other than that I have no way to approach to her.

 

 

I am also extremely reserved and shy. And another thing is I am not sure if the feelings are mutual or one sided since I don't know about her feelings about me. 

 

Can anyone with similar situations who've overcome this explain how did you do it and give me some tips? 

 

Thanks in advance.

Edited July 10, 2017 by iamnoni_PRO

[fordmustang12345 3,910]

IMO. Just go up to her and tell her that you like her. My only experience with girls is over the internet so I kinda lack in the face to face department with girls

Edited July 11, 2017 by fordmustang12345

[VaudeVille 1,428]

Talk to her just as a friend, get to know more about her.

Dont rush to admit your feelings, it's very important that you get to know the person better, gradually over time.

At some point of time you could ask her for her contacts and get closer to the person over time.

Then you need to decide whether you really want to be in a relationship with this person since relationships require you to be committed.

After all of this is when it's best to admit how you feel for her if you still do.

Edited July 11, 2017 by VaudeVille

[I3eg-For-Mercy 1,102]

Bro, once a year is not good lol.

But anyways be a man and go talk to her and say how much you like.

Do not go talk over social medias or chat apps and express your feelings, because it's what noobs do, and girls don't like such guys, they think you are lame and can't talk face to face.

Just be cool, go up to her then talk with her, tell her how attractive she is and ask her  B)

Get her number if you don't have.

But if you don't know this girl much, before everything get to know her better. I think it's better than to straight away asking out without knowing each other, and that you are mature enough and is willing to take a relationship seriously.

Man I do not take responsibilities if you get friendzoned  :lol:

Edited July 11, 2017 by I3eg-For-Mercy

[Boeing_787 1,455]

Tanki, the best source for dating information.

[sid262 283]

best is take her whats app or facebook id..... and then shes yours as girls in social atmosphere are different but on these apps they are like also in search of a  boy.... lol

 

and when you are in regular touch with her on these apps....then one day she will herself ask you if she can meet you in person.... then just go buy movie tickets for corner seat.... :P and sit like a gentleman atleast for the first meeting...  :P  :D

Edited July 11, 2017 by sid262

[MSI 1,926]

:mellow: :blush:

[dilsharox 2,395]

start chatting with her and then ask her out 

[mydoom.exe 5,154]

My experience with this kind of stuff:

 

Disclaimer:

 

The fact that you only see her once a year and yet you're still "attracted" is a warning sign. You may not realize it, but it could be purely physical attraction, and nothing on a deeper level. If you really feel as though you both could live happily ever after with each other, then feel free to go ahead. However, you don't want to make the wrong choice. Be careful.

 

 

Start small, approach as a friend. Don't really do all that much, don't betray your feelings, have some small talk once in a while. Wait for a while, see if anything is escalating, then there's two options:

 

1. Nothing happens. She isn't interested, don't bother.

2. You notice small changes in her behaviour. Keep going, try and see if you can keep speaking to her without either of you getting flustered. Keep in contact, don't break the chain you've made. Slowly ramp things up. It could take years, especially since, as you say, you only meet her about once a year. If something major does happen, then congratulations to you.

 

The reasoning behind this is that nobody likes someone of the opposite gender just going straight up to them and saying "Marry me". You want to build a strong foundation first in order to have a lasting relationship. Think of this method as a pyramid. The base is really wide and sturdy, but not all that impressive. But as you go higher up, the greater the view is.

 

Best of luck to you.

[Tofu 6,773]

Drop a gold

[splitterpoint 10,986]

You need to tell her that you play guitar.

[Tofu 6,773]

You need to tell her that you play guitar.

Banjo imo

[iamnoni_PRO 46]

My experience with this kind of stuff:

 

Disclaimer:

 

The fact that you only see her once a year and yet you're still "attracted" is a warning sign. You may not realize it, but it could be purely physical attraction, and nothing on a deeper level. If you really feel as though you both could live happily ever after with each other, then feel free to go ahead. However, you don't want to make the wrong choice. Be careful.

 

 

Start small, approach as a friend. Don't really do all that much, don't betray your feelings, have some small talk once in a while. Wait for a while, see if anything is escalating, then there's two options:

 

1. Nothing happens. She isn't interested, don't bother.

2. You notice small changes in her behaviour. Keep going, try and see if you can keep speaking to her without either of you getting flustered. Keep in contact, don't break the chain you've made. Slowly ramp things up. It could take years, especially since, as you say, you only meet her about once a year. If something major does happen, then congratulations to you.

 

The reasoning behind this is that nobody likes someone of the opposite gender just going straight up to them and saying "Marry me". You want to build a strong foundation first in order to have a lasting relationship. Think of this method as a pyramid. The base is really wide and sturdy, but not all that impressive. But as you go higher up, the greater the view is.

 

Best of luck to you.

Thanks for the advice,and yes you might be correct about this being solely about physical attraction,but the thing is,I have met this girl before in my childhood,and we had once played in a farm when we were young. This has only happened once,but there is more.

 

I was just randomly sitting on a chair drinking some coffee,when I saw her come up to her dad to ask something. I had totally forgotten who she was,and as such,I didn't pay much attention to her as I thought she's just someone new I don't know.

 

But when I noticed her features closely,she resembled the girl that I had played with before. And I was tempted to know if it was really her. Although It was pretty much confirmed that it was the same girl I had met before,the thing which really made me attracted towards her was her behaviour. 

 

She seemed reserved just like me (I keep most of the things to myself and am introverted). She seemed like she was an introvert too. She was also kind of shy just like me,and most of all,she didn't seem like a typical girl who can't leave her phone without taking selfies and . 

 

She kinda looked intelligent to me at least. If I could only start a conversation with her,i'd ask her if she prefers to read books (I do). 

 

You see? I've seen many beautiful woman before,but I feel like this isn't just about the looks. I can't relate to many people,but I felt like I could relate to her.Only if I could spark a conversation with her,I'd be glad to know about her interests and if it matches mines.

 

-I am quite,shy,reserved,and I usually stay away from the crowd. I prefer to inspect the crowd and try to grasp onto their perception of things. I love writing and also like to read. Not to mention I love photography (of nature mostly).

 

Keeping all these things in mind, She kinda resembled me by the way she stood away from the crowd and preferred not to be the center of attention,she seemed shy and reserved,and she also was as quite as me if not more. 

 

I don't say it's not about the looks,but I feel like it's not ONLY because of the looks,because look wise i've seen many beautiful girls before,but the main reason to my attraction to me I feel like is because I could kind of relate to her (It's hard for me to relate to anyone,because they mainly prefer to have small talk,while I prefer to talk about some deep physiological things. Both psychology and sociology)

 

What do you say? Yes I can see her once every year only,but the level in which I could simply relate to her struck me like a truck,and now I am trapped lol

Edited July 13, 2017 by Ninja
Please refrain from using inappropriate language even if censored.

[mydoom.exe 5,154]

 

Ah, behavioural attraction.

 

Well, as I said, try and start small, see how you do from there, and pick the best course of action. Get to know her better, then see if what you think and presumably love about her is true. That's really all the advice I have to offer you.

 

​Remember that this kind of thing can be embarrassing for either of the two genders.

[Possibility 282]

Go straight up to her, say I love you, and kiss her. 

[Widow-Maker 60]

I have some questions for you:

 

How come just once a year? Is it because of the miles between your Cousin and her?

 

If you found you like her alot, what are the chances of you meeting for a date?

 

I don't know your situation, but do either of you have a car or access to one? I'm not asking for your age. 

 

I think meeting on social media is a bit cheesy, but if circumstances are as you say, once a year, then FB may be your foot in the door. See if she's on FB or other social media. If you find her, send her a friend request. If she accepts, then at least you have one foot off home plate, on your way to first base. 

 

Try chatting with her. Get to know her likes and dislikes. Ask her if she has any pets. Show an interest in them, if she does. Share some ideas, thoughts. See how she responds. But take your time, don't be pushy. If she doesn't respond right away, don't get upset. She may need time to think. All this takes loads of time. Be patient. Don't let on your intentions...not at first. That will come in time. If she seems to like you, ask her if it's okay to call her. If so, she'll give you her number. Choose your words well. Tell her exactly what you mean or want to know. Leave nothing to assumption. Keep it small talk at first and especially, keep it clean!!! 

 

Show her you are a Gentleman. Don't start with, "Gee, I think you're cute (pretty, gorgeous, etc.). That sends the wrong message. There is plenty of time. If she's interested, she will respond to you. If not, then move on. 

 

I think an icebreaker might be, "I remembered you from when we were younger, playing on the farm. It was fun. Don't you think so?" "Do you remember that day when..........?" That's something you know you both have in common. 

 

Most of the responses you have gotten, thus far, are very good. Every guy has his own way of meeting young women. (Please don't call her a "girl" that can be viewed as being condescending). Just remember, what works for one may not work for another. Each circumstance is different. 

 

Good luck on your new adventure. 

[personia 4,036]

I am having trouble approaching my first crush. I can only meet her once an year since she's my cousin's friend so whenever they have a get-together I join in too.But other than that I have no way to approach to her.

 

 

I am also extremely reserved and shy. And another thing is I am not sure if the feelings are mutual or one sided since I don't know about her feelings about me. 

 

Can anyone with similar situations who've overcome this explain how did you do it and give me some tips? 

 

Thanks in advance.

Generally I try to approach people in general with my feet. Failing that, if you own an expensive car you could drive over her up to her with this. If you have no car, you could do the same with a bike, trike, tandem or other sort of unmotored vehicle. 

 

If you have no feet, walking on your hands to approach her would be pretty cool.

 

If you have no hands or feet, you should probably kill yourself, you have no hope.

 

 

That was sarcasm, don't kill yourself.

 

[personia 4,036]

My experience with this kind of stuff:

 

Disclaimer:

 

The fact that you only see her once a year and yet you're still "attracted" is a warning sign. You may not realize it, but it could be purely physical attraction, and nothing on a deeper level. If you really feel as though you both could live happily ever after with each other, then feel free to go ahead. However, you don't want to make the wrong choice. Be careful.

 

 

Start small, approach as a friend. Don't really do all that much, don't betray your feelings, have some small talk once in a while. Wait for a while, see if anything is escalating, then there's two options:

 

1. Nothing happens. She isn't interested, don't bother.

2. You notice small changes in her behaviour. Keep going, try and see if you can keep speaking to her without either of you getting flustered. Keep in contact, don't break the chain you've made. Slowly ramp things up. It could take years, especially since, as you say, you only meet her about once a year. If something major does happen, then congratulations to you.

 

The reasoning behind this is that nobody likes someone of the opposite gender just going straight up to them and saying "Marry me". You want to build a strong foundation first in order to have a lasting relationship. Think of this method as a pyramid. The base is really wide and sturdy, but not all that impressive. But as you go higher up, the greater the view is.

 

Best of luck to you.

 

'scuse the double post.

Edited July 12, 2017 by personia

[Boeing_787 1,455]

Generally I try to approach people in general with my feet. Failing that, if you own an expensive car you could drive over her up to her with this. If you have no car, you could do the same with a bike, trike, tandem or other sort of unmotored vehicle.

 

If you have no feet, walking on your hands to approach her would be pretty cool.

 

If you have no hands or feet, you should probably kill yourself, you have no hope.

 

 

That was sarcasm, don't kill yourself.

 

Yeah, its best to just ride on your ten toes if you can't drive

[mydoom.exe 5,154]

 

 

Right, because your plethora of information on this subject means your opinion trumps mine. Sorry.

[personia 4,036]

Right, because your plethora of information on this subject means your opinion trumps mine. Sorry.

Well I'm not wrong with the stuff about the feet, am I.

[Tofu 6,773]

Rap battle right here right now

[iamnoni_PRO 46]

I have some questions for you:

 

How come just once a year? Is it because of the miles between your Cousin and her?

 

If you found you like her alot, what are the chances of you meeting for a date?

 

I don't know your situation, but do either of you have a car or access to one? I'm not asking for your age. 

 

I think meeting on social media is a bit cheesy, but if circumstances are as you say, once a year, then FB may be your foot in the door. See if she's on FB or other social media. If you find her, send her a friend request. If she accepts, then at least you have one foot off home plate, on your way to first base. 

 

Try chatting with her. Get to know her likes and dislikes. Ask her if she has any pets. Show an interest in them, if she does. Share some ideas, thoughts. See how she responds. But take your time, don't be pushy. If she doesn't respond right away, don't get upset. She may need time to think. All this takes loads of time. Be patient. Don't let on your intentions...not at first. That will come in time. If she seems to like you, ask her if it's okay to call her. If so, she'll give you her number. Choose your words well. Tell her exactly what you mean or want to know. Leave nothing to assumption. Keep it small talk at first and especially, keep it clean!!! 

 

Show her you are a Gentleman. Don't start with, "Gee, I think you're cute (pretty, gorgeous, etc.). That sends the wrong message. There is plenty of time. If she's interested, she will respond to you. If not, then move on. 

 

I think an icebreaker might be, "I remembered you from when we were younger, playing on the farm. It was fun. Don't you think so?" "Do you remember that day when..........?" That's something you know you both have in common. 

 

Most of the responses you have gotten, thus far, are very good. Every guy has his own way of meeting young women. (Please don't call her a "girl" that can be viewed as being condescending). Just remember, what works for one may not work for another. Each circumstance is different. 

 

Good luck on your new adventure. 

Yup. Apparently she lives far away from where me and my cousin live,so whenever they have a get-together (which happens like 1 time in an year) I also go with my cousin.

 

I don't know much about dating. I'd just prefer to sit on a bench,drink a coffee with her whilst looking at the moon or something and talking about the things that she likes (which I don't know about yet) but also about things I like. 

 

In order for me to like her more,I need to know about her interests and see if it matches mine (if not completely then a lil bit)

 

And finally nope we don't have access to cars. 

 

And I did search her up in social media but unfortunately she didn't show up,so that's a bit of a bummer. 

 

I will hopefully meet her again sometime later,and if she's present,my cousin's going to spark up a conversation with her,and try to ask her some questions for me so that I get to know her better. I too will be there hopefully and talk about my interests too,and inspect closely if she's interested in the same things as I am. 

 

I feel like my cousin has the main job to do. He can help us get more casual with each other,since he's going to be there with me and her talking about random things,so I'll have a greater chance to add in a couple of things and then casually start talking to her as well.

[sid262 283]

gift her a romper..... someone told me it look good on girls....if you from europe or america then girl will try it......as its common dere..

[abdussamadgtr 2]

Drop a gold

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