I need some help

[Sliced 819]

I've been working lots of over time at my job, even though I'm only supposed to be part-time since I'm still in school. Last week I pulled 34 hours and the week before I did 52. This week I'm doing 38 and next week 45. 34 and 38 aren't quite, 40, but it's still a lot.

 

Even though I'm working so many hours, I've estimates I'll barely make enough to pass the poverty line of $15,060. I'm 19 years old and still living with my mom and pop because once I graduate, I'll have to pay rent, which will only be like $150. However, I need a car for work, and I need a better phone so I can take pics of my schedules. I have an old flip phone so you can guess how that works out.

 

But, If I get a car, I'll have to pay for my own insurance, then the increase on my dad's insurance since I'm living with my parents and if I get a better phone, it'll go on their plan and that's another increase I'll have to pay. On top of that, they're constantly wanting to borrow money from me.

 

Last month was my little brother's 10th b-day. I bought him a $50 toy, which contained a Camaro RC cop car and a red Lykan Hypersport RC car. That's fine and dandy, but my parents have yet to get him a gift - a gift they can't afford. A $200 gift. $200 they want from me so they can get it, even though I'm already tight on cash.

 

I want to get into a career racing touring cars. Classes for racing are near $2,000 for a one day class. If I make $16,000 a year...I'll probably only be able to take like 3 or 4 classes per year.

 

My parents are tight on cash because they buy bird after bird. they got a green Quaker which died, so they got two Conures after that. One of them died, so they got another Conure. then they got a blue Quaker. then they got two Cockatiels. My dad also went on two trips to California and they're planning a third.

 

They can't even afford internet which I have to cough up $20/mo for. (Which I'm not going to)

 

This morning my aunt called me on the phone needing $10 and she was going to pick me up to get it. That's fine because it's only $10. My dad asked why she's picking me up and rolled his eyes upon me giving him the answer.

 

I straight up pointed out he's asking for $200. $200 he could afford if he wasn't over spending and my parents went off on me, saying I'm being degrading. It's not degrading. It's the truth.

 

It's upsetting to know I have to bust my butt at work and attend school and barely have any money left over.

 

I would have more money if they'd let me gotten a job when I was 16 but they didn't feel I could handle it, since I have some slight mental issues.

 

I'm 19 years old and I still can't tell them no without getting my head chewed off. Such as my father wanting to pull me out of bed to give me one and I told him no and he refused to leave my room.

 

My goals are big ones and getting there won't be easy. I thought my parents would try to help me, but they're just slowing me down. I'm in a bind, known as life, where money is everything and I don't know what to do.

[Musa 5,352]

Feeling sorry for you.

 

Can't you just leave your parents?

Edited November 18, 2017 by Musa

[sumitosan 12]

First things first, you need to get your parents to learn. You should give them a pep talk about how difficult it is at work and that they should try it instead of leaving it all to you. Tell them that you're stressed out.

 

Secondly, tell them to save money. What job are you currently doing? If you are doing anything related to economics, it should be easy to explain to them.

 

Finally, stand up to them. You're letting go too easily.

 

Good luck on your studies :) Try to rest as much as possible.

[Magenta 5,165]

You really must take a stand against your parents. Try to make your point a bit more firmly. It doesn't matter whether they think you're being degrading or something. It you with your life and your hard earned money.

Edited November 18, 2017 by Magenta

[splitterpoint 10,986]

it should be easy to explain to them.

 

I'm pretty sure it won't be easy at all from what I've read here.

[Magenta 5,165]

I'm pretty sure it won't be easy at all from what I've read here.

It's never easy to explain anything to parents.   :unsure: -_-  <_< They just never understand :(

Edited November 18, 2017 by Magenta

[splitterpoint 10,986]

It's never easy to explain anything to parents.   :unsure: -_-  <_< They just never understand :(

Asking for $200 when your child is already on a tight budget; yet spending money on some stupid bird seems a bit over the top to me though.

 

EDIT: I mean asking for money as a parent in the first place... I find that an absurd thing to do but I guess I don't know what situation these people are in so who am I to judge.

Edited November 18, 2017 by splitterpoint

[Boeing_787 1,455]

I think it would be more useful than asking for advice online if you could find a reasonable person to physically talk to your parents about your situation.

[Sliced 819]

Asking for $200 when your child is already on a tight budget; yet spending money on some stupid bird seems a bit over the top to me though.

 

EDIT: I mean asking for money as a parent in the first place... I find that an absurd thing to do but I guess I don't know what situation these people are in so who am I to judge.

My parents spend and spend and dont even realize it, which makes them oblivious to the fact that's why they cant afford anything...but want to go to california for a trip. Earlier I gave them back ten bucks they gave me for a cab and they said they'd just take it out of the $200 like im going to give them the money

Edited November 18, 2017 by Sliced

[sumitosan 12]

I'm pretty sure it won't be easy at all from what I've read here.

If he is doing economics, he would be able to draw up a funding plan. If its convincing, then parents will lisen. But it only works forpeople who are very accustomed with economics.

[GuidoFawkes 2,361]

I ran away from home on my 18th birthday and i have never ever went back.

[Sliced 819]

If he is doing economics, he would be able to draw up a funding plan. If its convincing, then parents will lisen. But it only works forpeople who are very accustomed with economics.

I work at Burger King

[monkeyburn 13,523]

Your parents are tight on cash because they buy bird after bird! They can't even afford internet! They want to get a $200.00 gift for your brother!

 

My advise to you is, don't even bother getting into arguments with them! Continue to work, and save up as much money as you can, and don't give up on school.

 

I'm assuming you don't live in a city, or you wouldn't need a car. So, if you move to a city you can use public transportation. If you can't move, get a bicycle, or walk. Walking is good excise!

 

About the birds! Maybe your parents should buy chickens, that way if all goes south they can serve them up for dinner. And why don't they use your internet? I'm assuming you have access with 1044 posts!

 

On the bright side, you have a roof over your head, food in your stomach, clothes on your back, school, and a job. You just have to stick to a reasonable goal, and work toward it. It's not going to happen by itself.

 

Good Luck! If all else fails, you can always become a writer... B)

[robbie56 2,403]

I feel you. It sucks that you have to spend so much money to accomplish anything. I also have to lend my parents money because in the end of the month they just don't have any money left for groceries.

[marc.jp_44 20,837]

I want to get into a career racing touring cars. Classes for racing are near $2,000 for a one day class. If I make $16,000 a year...I'll probably only be able to take like 3 or 4 classes per year.

Without being mean at all, you probably have to be more realistic, here. If you're tight on cash, don't try to enter a career that will require you to cough up a lot of money. Unforunately, your family has not invested their money wisely and you probably have to go to a financial expert to get out of poverty. In Australia, the Government offers a lot of benefits and support to young adults but if you live in America (not 100% sure if you do but you spoke about California and Burger King, so I'm assuming here) you probably won't receive much help from the Government. Definitely don't get a car, that'll set you too far back. I'd say move out of your parents' house, get a cheap apartment and stay in school. 

[Sliced 819]

Without being mean at all, you probably have to be more realistic, here. If you're tight on cash, don't try to enter a career that will require you to cough up a lot of money. Unforunately, your family has not invested their money wisely and you probably have to go to a financial expert to get out of poverty. In Australia, the Government offers a lot of benefits and support to young adults but if you live in America (not 100% sure if you do but you spoke about California and Burger King, so I'm assuming here) you probably won't receive much help from the Government. Definitely don't get a car, that'll set you too far back. I'd say move out of your parents' house, get a cheap apartment and stay in school. 

I know my goals aren't realistic, but that doesn't mean I won't try. There's people doing it, so it's possible. It's in my blood to race. Getting endless boost chains in burnout at the age of 6, wasting the competition in Go-Karting, even during my very first time.

 

Too many people just throw in the towel because it's going to be hard work getting to where they want to go. I just need to save up for about three years, take some classes, get a driver's license and stuff. I'm not scared I can't do it. I'm really not scared at all. That'll just slow me down, and if I don't get anywhere, well, I'll start up a gaming YT channel and see if I can make a name for myself there and remain in the world of simulated racing.

 

My life has been tough. Not as tough as it could have been, nor easier, but it's nothing I can't get through. I've been through being a friendless outcast, bullied all the way to high school, straight F three years of high school because at the time I was too stupid to let such irrelevant things get to me. I spent a weekend at a hospital for depression. I lost my grandma when I was 7 and at the time she was the only one in my life I could count on. (Little tid bit of my life story for ya)

 

Sad, yes, but I can't dwell on it.

 

I don't want to just give in. My grandma taught me better than that. I just gotta keep jumping these hurdles. Even though I'm an asthmatic, I'm used to it. My arms are scar-free. My name isn't on a gravestone yet. Until it is, I've got a finish line to cross. 

 

I'm going to cross it someday.

[Magenta 5,165]

I know my goals aren't realistic, but that doesn't mean I won't try. There's people doing it, so it's possible. It's in my blood to race. Getting endless boost chains in burnout at the age of 6, wasting the competition in Go-Karting, even during my very first time.

 

Too many people just throw in the towel because it's going to be hard work getting to where they want to go. I just need to save up for about three years, take some classes, get a driver's license and stuff. I'm not scared I can't do it. I'm really not scared at all. That'll just slow me down, and if I don't get anywhere, well, I'll start up a gaming YT channel and see if I can make a name for myself there and remain in the world of simulated racing.

 

My life has been tough. Not as tough as it could have been, nor easier, but it's nothing I can't get through. I've been through being a friendless outcast, bullied all the way to high school, straight F three years of high school because at the time I was too stupid to let such irrelevant things get to me. I spent a weekend at a hospital for depression. I lost my grandma when I was 7 and at the time she was the only one in my life I could count on. (Little tid bit of my life story for ya)

 

Sad, yes, but I can't dwell on it.

 

I don't want to just give in. My grandma taught me better than that. I just gotta keep jumping these hurdles. Even though I'm an asthmatic, I'm used to it. My arms are scar-free. My name isn't on a gravestone yet. Until it is, I've got a finish line to cross. 

 

I'm going to cross it someday.

Well, I see you have suffered. Those who suffer make excellent writers. And from what I see, your english isn't bad. Why don't you take up part-time writing? Try to get them published in places, see where you're going. It's always nice to discover new talents.

[Sliced 819]

Well, I see you have suffered. Those who suffer make excellent writers. And from what I see, your english isn't bad. Why don't you take up part-time writing? Try to get them published in places, see where you're going. It's always nice to discover new talents.

I suck at writing.

[Magenta 5,165]

I know my goals aren't realistic, but that doesn't mean I won't try. There's people doing it, so it's possible. It's in my blood to race. Getting endless boost chains in burnout at the age of 6, wasting the competition in Go-Karting, even during my very first time.

 

Too many people just throw in the towel because it's going to be hard work getting to where they want to go. I just need to save up for about three years, take some classes, get a driver's license and stuff. I'm not scared I can't do it. I'm really not scared at all. That'll just slow me down, and if I don't get anywhere, well, I'll start up a gaming YT channel and see if I can make a name for myself there and remain in the world of simulated racing.

 

My life has been tough. Not as tough as it could have been, nor easier, but it's nothing I can't get through. I've been through being a friendless outcast, bullied all the way to high school, straight F three years of high school because at the time I was too stupid to let such irrelevant things get to me. I spent a weekend at a hospital for depression. I lost my grandma when I was 7 and at the time she was the only one in my life I could count on. (Little tid bit of my life story for ya)

 

Sad, yes, but I can't dwell on it.

 

I don't want to just give in. My grandma taught me better than that. I just gotta keep jumping these hurdles. Even though I'm an asthmatic, I'm used to it. My arms are scar-free. My name isn't on a gravestone yet. Until it is, I've got a finish line to cross. 

 

I'm going to cross it someday.

This post was finely written, whether you realised it or not. Good writing isn't about long words, it's about clarity.

[OICU812 32]

I admire you bravery and courage. Don't give up on your dreams. 

 

I assume you live in the USA. If so, as of age 18 you are legally an adult. You can sign into contracts and be liable for them. Join the military without your parents' permission. Pretty much anything you want, except buying and consuming alcohol legally (depending on which State you live in, a few will allow beer at 18 and whiskey at 21). 

 

As an adult, you have the same rights as your parents. Leave your childhood behind and learn to be an adult. It's very, very difficult to stand up to your parents, I had to stand up to mine and "lay down the law" to them. Since you will have to pay rent to them (same thing happened to me once I got a job) they no longer see you as a child, but rather an adult, a renter, and a person with whom they are doing business. This is your key to freedom. 

 

If you decide to enter into a renters agreement with them, then it has to be understood that they no longer have any control over you, as in any rental agreement. You come and go as you please, you keep your own money (since you'll be paying them rent, that's extra income for them...end of guilt trip). Since this is a business dealing with money involved, have them draw up a Renter's Agreement and both of you sign it in front of a Notary Republic. The Notary will sign it, too and affix their seal, making the contract binding. This won't be easy if your parents try to fight it. It would, also, be a good idea if you make up your "Bill of Rights" for both of you to sign. 

 

Your other option would be to get your own apartment. Ask around work, see if anyone is looking for a roommate. Sounds like it's time to leave the nest, young fledgling. 

Edited November 19, 2017 by OICU812

[GuidoFawkes 2,361]

lol, join the military for him? he just said he was asmathic

[Sliced 819]

lol, join the military for him? he just said he was asmathic

Plus flat foot lol

[GuidoFawkes 2,361]

Plus flat foot lol

if youre so good at crystal management and playing like a rich buyer why cant you do the same in real life?

[marc.jp_44 20,837]

I know my goals aren't realistic, but that doesn't mean I won't try. 

I'm not telling you to give up. That would be taking "be more realistic" to the extreme. What I'm saying is, at least have a fallback plan. You need to get enough money in the kitty before you can start doing that racing stuff but I'd also recommend having a well paying, stable, "proper" job. If your dreams go south, you'll need a backup plan for sure. 

 

This post was finely written, whether you realised it or not. Good writing isn't about long words, it's about clarity.

Agreed. He's a very clear and concise writer. The thing I most admire is how he structures his text walls.

[sumitosan 12]

^I like your writing too :) Why not enroll as an applicant at a local magazine? Writing would also help your studies.