I need some help

[Sliced 819]

I'm not telling you to give up. That would be taking "be more realistic" to the extreme. What I'm saying is, at least have a fallback plan. You need to get enough money in the kitty before you can start doing that racing stuff but I'd also recommend having a well paying, stable, "proper" job. If your dreams go south, you'll need a backup plan for sure. 

 

Agreed. He's a very clear and concise writer. The thing I most admire is how he structures his text walls.

As of now, my fall back is hoping to become a paid youtuber xD

 

What do you mean by how I structure my text walls?

if youre so good at crystal management and playing like a rich buyer why cant you do the same in real life?

Real life doesnt = Tanki or I'd have a Koenigsegg CCXR Travita  :ph34r:

 

jk those things are nearly 5 mill xD

Edited November 19, 2017 by Sliced

[marc.jp_44 20,837]

As of now, my fall back if hoping to become a paid youtuber xD

That's not a fallback. YouTubers earn barely anything, you either make it (and earn millions) or you don't (and make barely anything). To kickstart a YouTube channel would require way too much. Why don't you try launching a Gofundme?

 

Just a quick food for thought, Claudiu, the biggest Tanki YouTuber (by far, now in the EN community) earns this much:

I wouldn't necessarily call that a steady income. 

[Sliced 819]

That's not a fallback. YouTubers earn barely anything, you either make it (and earn millions) or you don't (and make barely anything). To kickstart a YouTube channel would require way too much. Why don't you try launching a Gofundme?

 

Just a quick food for thought, Claudiu, the biggest Tanki YouTuber (by far, now in the EN community) earns this much:

I wouldn't necessarily call that a steady income. 

I see your point. Maybe I can just add in the YT thing as a hobby. Maybe further my writing and see if I can write a book or something. But that'll be hard as well.

[marc.jp_44 20,837]

I see your point. Maybe I can just add in the YT thing as a hobby. Maybe further my writing and see if I can write a book or something. But that'll be hard as well.

You're very ambitious. xD

The problem is, all the careers you're looking towards are a) more hobbies than reliable careers and b) very difficult.

I say "very difficult" because they require you to go in solo, you're on your own. YouTubing requires HEAPS of self-publicising/advertising and you'll have to put down a lot of money to kickstart your channel. If leaning towards writing, do not go towards writing a book, I'd recommend instead trying to work as a journalist in your local Newspaper or something. It's not the best paying job but at least it's interesting and if you're passionate, why not?

Edited November 19, 2017 by Marc

[Sliced 819]

You're very ambitious. xD

The problem is, all the careers you're looking towards are a) more hobbies than reliable careers and B) very difficult.

I say "very difficult" because they require you to go in solo, you're on your own. YouTubing requires HEAPS of self-publicising/advertising and you'll have to put down a lot of money to kickstart your channel. If leaning towards writing, do not go towards writing a book, I'd recommend instead trying to work as a journalist in your local Newspaper or something. It's not the best paying job but at least it's interesting and if you're passionate, why not?

Also, what did you mean by how I structured my text walls?

[marc.jp_44 20,837]

Also, what did you mean by how I structured my text walls?

That's aside from the point but I meant that I like how you keep your text walls very separated, instead of a chunk of text.

[Magenta 5,165]

Also, what did you mean by how I structured my text walls?

He appreciates your way of breaking your text walls into paragraphs. So do I.

[Sliced 819]

That's aside from the point but I meant that I like how you keep your text walls very separated, instead of a chunk of text.

I want to do something interesting with my life. Nothing interesting is easy to get to. 

[Magenta 5,165]

I want to do something interesting with my life. Nothing interesting is easy to get to. 

May I suggest something? Stop watching those Hollywood movies, be a teeny bit more realistic. Will help.

[Sliced 819]

May I suggest something? Stop watching those Hollywood movies, be a teeny bit more realistic. Will help.

I dont watch movies, actually.

[Magenta 5,165]

I dont watch movies, actually.

Surprise, surprise.

 

Just be realistic that's all I'm saying. Doing what interests you is a noble idea, but make sure that doesn't land you on the streets.

[marc.jp_44 20,837]

I want to do something interesting with my life. Nothing interesting is easy to get to. 

Basically, what I'd say is, get a stable job with a reasonable income, do it 'till you're in your mid 20's and settle down. Once you're comfortable and got some good amounts of money in the bank and invested, then feel free to trial those things on the side and see how you go. Don't jump into it now, you have everything to lose and if it doesn't go to plan, you'll most likely find yourself on the streets. 

[LOLKILLERTOTHEDEATH 1,921]

I do pity you. It must be very hard knowing that your parents spend a lot of money on things which you deem less worth it. 

 

Don't give up, until it's all over, until there's nothing left to fight for.

 

Good luck!

[BlackWasp777 4,498]

About leaving

I think it would make the things easy for you, to leave. And I think, leaving is no option in your situation.

-> leaving costs money (a lot) while the rent at your parents home is very cheap (below 200).. I assume leaving will become more expensive for you, and this will not aid your situation.

-> it is kind of running away from the situation. And the situation consists of your parents + the overall situation + your way to handle it. And to me your post reads like you are not yet happy with the way you can handle the situation. And > sounds hard but is true > you have to learn that. Beeing there is the best environment to learn to handle that.

So.. from my perspective, I would stay for the moment.

 

 

About your parents and your help

IMHO it is a must to support the ones you love.. but it makes a big difference on how you support whom.

It seems that they would be able to live on the available money if they would not spend it for things that do not benefit their situation (birds, trips, gifts which costs exceed their possibilities).

 

So what kind of help do they need?

- Even more money to spend it on stuff that does not help to solve their situation?

- Or some help on learning how to handle money?

I think it is the second one.

And I think it will be hard for them to accept that they mess it up constantly and again and again.

 

Is there maybe some organization close to you, that is specialized on handling people with money problems? Often such organizations have offer help in sorting out a household spendings.. to help to plan a bit ahead the costs and offer some proven hints and tips on how to get along better with what you have.

Maybe you can find some organization like that.. and go there to talk to the social workers there. They are supposed to be trained on that.. and if the one you meet talks crap, try your luck somewhere else (there are always some blind fish and black sheeps..)

 

This will offer a way forward to your parents, while it will not embarras them with their son telling them how to live their life.

 

Please use this external guide.. and if your parents do not like to make use of it, use the guidance for your won. In your situation you should make use of everything you can while it is legal and "good".

Maybe you end up with a certain amount of money that you hand over to them each month.. best a few days before the urgent and important payments are due, so that they can not even spend it for something else. And then -> nothing more.

 

 

You communicating to them

You already started to clean up your mind on the situation and to have a more clear picture of what is ok to do and what not. Perfect.

Based on such a picture you can more easily talk to them, without teaching them but simply saying what you think. I heard the US culture is not as straight forward in communiction as we Europeans.. but I am sure you will find a way to handle that. Why? Because this is what you have to learn.

 

 

 

school, job

I've no insight into the race car stuff, but it does not sound like a job you can rely on. It's still ok to go for it, but you need a backup plan - like an education that enables to to some other job as well. Are there any options you could think of?

 

 

So.. I close by wishing you all the best.

Maybe some of the things I wrote here do not apply to you, as you come from another culture.. but one thing is the same for all: we have to grow up, we have to lean to face the challenges we are offered. It seems you do great for the moment. Especially that you ask for help is a sign of maturity.. instead of waiting with no solutions until the situation eats you up.

mgbwy,

BW

[Mjro7 2,837]

sad story..
but i think you need to start alone then  :unsure:

[Rohan_Is_Cool 22]

Though a lot of replies I've seen here are helpful, but it would be beneficial to seek professional help,and it won't hurt anyways.

They are great for that matter if you aren't comfortable talking : https://mobile.twitter.com/anelasticmind/status/930773368802086912

[r_I_already_won0 2,339]

Thanks @Sliced for sharing your story with us.

 

The school is a must and nonnegotiable.  Every year of more schooling that you attend, more job options open up for you.  Hopefully you'll be able to craft a nice resume after a few years.

 

Upload it to sites that help potential employers scan for digital resumes and applicants, such as Monster.com or TheLadder.com.  Most employers use the internet to procure potential employees.

 

Speaking of which, make sure all (if any) of your social media reflects the image you would like to send.  It will be looked at.

 

It's important to apply for jobs even if you don't think that you meet all the requirements.  Many, such as subway operators, gas plant operators, mail-delivery superintendents, power line installers/repairers, commercial pilots, and elevator installers, offer substantial and long-term on-the-job training.

 

All of the above do not even require a bachelor's degree, as well.   Some start out low-paying but advance towards very high salaries given experience. (We're talking median salaries of 75k a year.)

 

1. Graduating from high school.

2. Waiting to get married until after 21 and do not have children till after being married.

3. Having a full-time job.

Follow the 3 steps above and you have only a 2% chance of falling into poverty.

 

So I'd encourage you to do a lot of looking around.  There is a large chance that you haven't investigated many potential careers for yourself.  It doesn't have to be unrealistic.

 

And remember, you are legally an adult and can control your own future.  I'm not very good in the personal relations department but previous posts have offered good advice there.  :)

 

Good luck!

Edited November 20, 2017 by r_I_already_won0

[VaudeVille 1,428]

Don't give up on your dreams and goals. You'll need courage to have the courage to stand up to your parents.

 

I don't mean to insult anyone but Americans tend to spend money they don't have and get caught in a debt trap.

It's a trap you do not want to get into. Try explaining to your parents to spend money only on things which are necessary. California trips, birds and 50$ gifts aren't essential. Try to cut down your expenses on things you do not require.

It is also a great habit to save a fixed portion of your income every month which you are not going to use. So first pay yourself and then pay for all other NECESSARY expenses. If you can do this in a disciplined manner, you'll soon have a decent amount saved up.

Your next goal should then be to acquire income generating assets (stocks, mutual funds etc.). People feel the urge to overspend once they have a lot of money saved up. Make sure you only spend money on what you need.

At this stage of life, you're working for money but your goal should be to get out of this rat race as fast as possible and get money to work for you. Afterall, being rich is an attitude and not material possesion. If your income is greater than your expenses and you have the surplus to do what you enjoy doing, you're rich.

You don't want to work your head off all your life and then retire on a skimpy pension once you're old.

I hope this helps you and I wish you all the best with your goals.

Edited November 20, 2017 by VaudeVille

[Sliced 819]

The hardest part of my life, currently, is the literal sleep - school - work - repeat process. I go to school from 12:00pm - 4:00pm, work 5-6:00pm - 12:30am, sleep from 3-5:00am - 9-11:00am.

 

I've been getting very little sleep and time to myself. It sucks. Once I graduate, I'm going to take on more hours from work. I have to. I have dreams I want to achieve and I'm killing myself to reach them. By that, I mean I'm pretty much a zombie every day. Numbness, weakness, headaches and all for $7.75 an hour.

 

I day dream often of being behind the wheel, just me myself and I, racing to my heart's content. All is silent, except the roar of the engine.

 

My grandmother is still with me. Even though she passed on 12 years ago, I feel her presence to this day. I want to make her proud most of all.

[VaudeVille 1,428]

 

 

The hardest part of my life, currently, is the literal sleep - school - work - repeat process. I go to school from 12:00pm - 4:00pm, work 5-6:00pm - 12:30am, sleep from 3-5:00am - 9-11:00am.

 

I've been getting very little sleep and time to myself. It sucks. Once I graduate, I'm going to take on more hours from work. I have to. I have dreams I want to achieve and I'm killing myself to reach them. By that, I mean I'm pretty much a zombie every day. Numbness, weakness, headaches and all for $7.75 an hour.

 

I day dream often of being behind the wheel, just me myself and I, racing to my heart's content. All is silent, except the roar of the engine.

 

My grandmother is still with me. Even though she passed on 12 years ago, I feel her presence to this day. I want to make her proud most of all.

 

It's extremely important for you to get adequate sleep. In my opinion you shouldn't waste any time whatsoever once you finish work and try to sleep as early as possible.

[Wes.Is.Just.A.Digger 1,712]

          I think you have to look at the real problem here. Burger King is over worked and underpaid as well as any other fast food, is no secret its just a rubbish job. Imo you should try to find a better work place first of all where at least less stress; in a bit of more relaxed environment you are able to think different. About your parents I don't think any of us are in a right position to give you advice and tell you what to do, but you are the only one who takes decision based on your very own needs that we are unable to know/guess by far. Remember the quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself, questions like: whois the most important person for you? what do you want? what are you willing and what abilities you have to do what you want? what is the price you have to pay for it? how it will be when you have what you want? (If you want my total subjective and irrelevant  personal opinion - all this hardship - work, school, stress, no sleep, sacrifice, for some dreams - its just a crap; take it slow, protect your health on a long term and you will eventually get there anyway - to your job, your home, etc). Modern slavery is a robots workaholic factory and consumer society; why so much hardship, I don't get it. Just laid back, take a breath and give it a thought).

[GENERAL_H_A_M_Z_A_9 576]

I mean I'm pretty much a zombie every day. Numbness, weakness, headaches and all for $7.75 an hour.

There are some websites from where you can earn. Try those, maybe you will earn more from there. 

Read this https://www.quora.com/Which-is-the-best-website-to-earn-money-by-typing

[Sliced 819]

It's extremely important for you to get adequate sleep. In my opinion you shouldn't waste any time whatsoever once you finish work and try to sleep as early as possible.

I do. Recently I've stopped playing my xbox which I just bought a couple weeks back, when I get home. 

[D.A.R.K.N.E.S.S 432]

I do. Recently I've stopped playing my xbox which I just bought a couple weeks back, when I get home. 

Its fine that you're treating yourself, especially with all the hard work you do, but I think the monetary issues are the root cause of the problem here.

 

Your parents, however much they might have done for you, do not deserve your complete support should it deter you from doing what you choose with your income.

It is your income, you have worked to earn it, and it is yours to do what you choose with it.

 

Now, if what you choose to do is to buy an xbox, that, a few weeks later, you stop playing, that is not a good investment of a lot of money into a relatively new "gadget" that is practically useless to you.

 

You, and your parents, must make better financial choices if you are to continue living as you are. It seems like your parents are in a spiral of denial that their indulgence in birds and holidays is not affecting them, instead using your income to float their sinking ship.

 

Instead of buying that $200-$300 xbox, you could've got a new smartphone with a data,minutes and text plan for at least 2 years. After your contract expires, you are allowed to keep the hpone, meanijg you can get a sim-only deal from then on, saving you even more money.

A phone enables you to stay connected, and use all the practical applications you might need e.g. alarm, camera, calendar and notifications.

On top of this, you can use it for entertainment purposes, essentially giving you a mini xbox as well - mobile games can be very good, and most are completely free of charge.

 

I find it shocking that, in a first world country like America, people still have to cope with falling behind on technology, putting them at a serious disadvantage in their employment chances, as well as being problematic in day-to-day life. There have been countless times in my job where I have had to look something up, or read something, or send a quick email, that without my phone, would not have been possible. In today's day and age, a decent phone is almost as necessary as an internet connection.

 

Furthermore, I completely agree with previous posters that the "racing dream" is quite unrealistic, and to avoid going homeless, you really need to have some sort of a backup option that isn't working at burger king.

Yes, we have all heard "follow your passion" and "only do something if you love what you are doing" but unfortunately the harsh reality is that in today's world of competition, we all have to do things we don't like doing merely to survive. 

 

Perhaps, once you are settled with a decent income and some savings in the account, you can enjoy some racing on the side, but seriously, pursuing solely professional motor racing without a steady income could be disastrous in the long term.

 

You should finish your education, at least graduate high school and think about your options from there. Some career opportunities have been mentioned previously that do not require university degrees, so you should do some research into those and find out if they suit you at all. 

 

I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavours

DA

Edited November 21, 2017 by D.A.R.K.N.E.S.S

[Best_of_thunder_2015 1,354]

Simple, 

 

Better, buy them a Big Mac it will be solved.