Gender in Tanki friendship

[u812ic 1,629]

There has been some skuttlebutt about adding gender to players' profile.

 

If you had a Tanki friend for a few years and thought that person was one gender and found he/she is of another gender, how would that affect you're online friendship?

 

In another online multi-player game, another player and I had been game friends for 3 years. My username was gender neutral. We had many personal conversations through in-game PM in the way of advice. When I divulged my true gender, the player got extremely upset, called me a few not nice names, made some not so true assumptions about my lifestyle and integrity. I told the player that the gender assumption was not made by me. The player ended our friendship and blocked me. 

 

Would gender make a difference to you?

 

 

[ZloyDanuJI 409]

usually i don't care what their name is or what they say they are, i just assume that they are male. until i meet them irl of courseI 

if a boy pretends to be a girl it doesn't bother me... unless i find out that they lied because they are gay

ig a girl pretends to be a boythat is completely understandable, i'd probably tell people on the internet that i was male if i was a girl

[Nicola_M 1,563]

It wouldn't bother me at all, because no one has anything to gain from that with me so they would have just wasted their time and effort.

 

I would however like a gender marker on our profiles because it's frustrating that even though my name is female people still assume I'm a guy.

 

I had to laugh when one player said in battle chat that most girls on here are guys and that I was thus fake.
Not from where I'm sat, hon. :lol:

[VaudeVille 1,428]

Well a tank is a tank and doesn't have gender. I think it is a rather unnecessary addition to the game.

 

However if someone is friends with someone and gender would impact how their friendship is defined, they can disclose their gender at an earlier stage of the friendship. 

[TheCongoSpider 8,942]

It would not bother me. 

 

That person probably thought you were a girl and was disappointed when you confirmed the opposite. 

 

Like @ZloyDanuJI, I assume every new player I meet is male unless their name implies that they are female. Why should a 3-year friendship end because of the person's gender? That's so unnecessary. 

[ZloyDanuJI 409]

Why should a 3-year friendship end because of the person's gender? That's so unnecessary. 

because sometimes it was never a friendship for him to begin with, it was simply a big lie made up by a twisted pedophile. but other than that it's okay

[TheCongoSpider 8,942]

because sometimes it was never a friendship for him to begin with, it was simply a big lie made up by a twisted pedophile. but other than that it's okay

Does it have to be a paedophile? It could probably be a low key desperate player who thinks that just because they're friends with a female player, they have a favourable chance to begin a relationship with them. The latter seems more likely to me, but that's just me. 

[DieselPlatinum 5,121]

Is it wrong for me to assume that everyone I meet online is a toaster? :ph34r:

[r_Given6 859]

Is it wrong for me to assume that everyone I meet online is a toaster? :ph34r:

Either that or they're a potato. :p

[u812ic 1,629]

I think the player broke off the friendship because of embarrassment. Some of our private conversations were about an intimate relationship that player was having in real life. I knew neither of them, we live in different countries. I gave some advice that apparently worked. The player asked me "How did you know it would work?" That's when I spilled the beans. 

 

To me, I don't care about gender. I knew a CEO from a big company that played the same game. He was male and had a female character. He said that he spends all day running a company of several thousand employees and was under a lot of stress. When he played the game, he felt he could sit back, relax, and let the male characters shower him with gifts of in-game items (which was allowed and encouraged between players). He had a few male online friends he did missions with. He was happy to let the male character take the lead, make the decisions and plan the strategy. 

 

Some people prefer the anonymity for personal reasons. If an online friendship is formed and later you find out the friend is of a different gender than you thought, it shouldn't make a difference....That person is still the same person you befriended. 

Edited March 31, 2019 by u812ic

[GorgoBlesk 831]

ig a girl pretends to be a boythat is completely understandable, i'd probably tell people on the internet that i was male if i was a girl

Why would you do such a thing xD

[u812ic 1,629]

Why would you do such a thing xD

I can understand that. I started playing a game that was only a few months old (I didn't know that at the time) with a female character. A male character told me to leave because "girls don't belong in a boy's game." He wasn't the only one that insulted me. So, I made up another account with a male character. Later, as the game grew, that attitude changed. 

[giant05 207]

I start off with "Bro" to everyone but doesn't make a difference if it's anything else

[Potdindy 866]

Technically male and female are not genders...genders are masculine and feminine which are language terms not biological lol.

 

Tanks have no sex except perhaps railgun, smoky, shaft, thunder, and magnum...not sure who wins.

 

All I call myself and others is "noob" which applies to both :D

[u812ic 1,629]

Technically male and female are not genders...genders are masculine and feminine which are language terms not biological lol.

 

Tanks have no sex except perhaps railgun, smoky, shaft, thunder, and magnum...not sure who wins.

 

All I call myself and others is "noob" which applies to both :D

Then go back to my original post, re-read it. While reading, insert masculine and feminine where I put male and female. See if that makes more sense to you. 

 

No, tanks do not have a gender, but the people playing those tanks, do. My question is not what you call everyone, but rather how you would feel about someone you have befriended, thinking that person was one gender and later found out the person was another gender, would that change how you felt towards that person?

[Initiate 1,306]

Then go back to my original post, re-read it. While reading, insert masculine and feminine where I put male and female. See if that makes more sense to you. 

 

No, tanks do not have a gender, but the people playing those tanks, do. My question is not what you call everyone, but rather how you would feel about someone you have befriended, thinking that person was one gender and later found out the person was another gender, would that change how you felt towards that person?

Hopefully not. It's the stupid people that do that. It shouldn't change it at all. I knew someone for awhile before I found out they were a boy, but it didn't change anything, and shouldn't, either.

[Michael828 816]

For me personally I wouldn't mind that at all, I'd be more surprised than disappointed.

[Boeing_787 1,455]

I would just readjust how I communicate with the person, according to his gender.

[u812ic 1,629]

I would just readjust how I communicate with the person, according to his gender.

If the person said nothing about the way you communicated, then why change it? Just go with the flow. Maybe it's the way you communicate that attracted the person to you in the first place. 

[GorgoBlesk 831]

Tanks have no sex except perhaps railgun, smoky, shaft, thunder, and magnum...not sure who wins.

Do you think that girls do not use these turrets properly? I think they do. Everyone can snipe in Tanki. Maybe except those Fire/Freeze players xD

[Boeing_787 1,455]

If the person said nothing about the way you communicated, then why change it? Just go with the flow. Maybe it's the way you communicate that attracted the person to you in the first place.

I am usually more open and informal when chatting with males compared to with females. That's what I meant.

[u812ic 1,629]

I am usually more open and informal when chatting with males compared to with females. That's what I meant.

If you meet someone on Tanki, you've chatted, fought battles together, maybe sent PMs to each other and have become friends. Further on down the road either the friend confides in you or Tanki has implemented gender on profile, you find out this friend is a female. Because of that your attitude towards that person suddenly changes. What I'm saying is that maybe your original attitude is the reason the female was attracted to you in the first place. Suddenly you change attitude because the friend, whom you obviously thought was a male in the first place, is female and she may not like the change. 

 

I understand your reasoning and I compliment you on that. Not all men are Gentlemen. On online games are bit different, though. You're not meeting face to face. So all one has to go on is attitude and a perceived personality. If the person didn't like it in the first place, you wouldn't be friends.  

[Boeing_787 1,455]

If you meet someone on Tanki, you've chatted, fought battles together, maybe sent PMs to each other and have become friends. Further on down the road either the friend confides in you or Tanki has implemented gender on profile, you find out this friend is a female. Because of that your attitude towards that person suddenly changes. What I'm saying is that maybe your original attitude is the reason the female was attracted to you in the first place. Suddenly you change attitude because the friend, whom you obviously thought was a male in the first place, is female and she may not like the change.

 

I understand your reasoning and I compliment you on that. Not all men are Gentlemen. On online games are bit different, though. You're not meeting face to face. So all one has to go on is attitude and a perceived personality. If the person didn't like it in the first place, you wouldn't be friends.

I understand.

[Tanker-Arthur 2,971]

Lets randomly revive this topic by posting something in it so it goes to the front of the forum.

[E_polypterus 2,374]

On 4/12/2021 at 7:34 PM, Tanker-Arthur said:

Lets randomly revive this topic by posting something in it so it goes to the front of the forum.

Yes that is called a “Bump” .—.